"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

Read more...

What's With All These Posts?

justiceseeker

Don Juan
Joined
May 11, 2008
Messages
186
Reaction score
8
Is it the weather? Why are so many guys, including myself, posting about how some woman dumped them? If you've read my posts, you'll know I have my own set of issues with a certain woman. But, after reading these posts, I' starting to come to the conclusion that women are ****ING CRAZY!!!!!!


I see these guys posting, and I realized how much time we're all wasting worrying about women who are the scum of the earth. Women who don't have an ounce of integrity, who will pull the rug out from underneath you at a moment's notice. This is starting to become an epidemic in our society.

How many of you know some guy, or it could even be yourself, who thought he was in a loving, stable relationship only to wake up one morning and find it all gone?

How many of you were driving nice cars and had lots of money in the bank, only to find yourself broke after some bytch who you thought loved you dropped your ass with no warning?

How many of you have been used for money, favors etc, but were never good enough to hang out with just for the sake of being together?

If you're anything like me, it's happened a lot. I laugh when i read these reports about how men who are married live longer than single men. SURE, but these reports are talking about guys in their 60's and 70's who married women who had integrity. Women from your grandma's era were so much different than modern women. Being married to someone like that would lengthen your life, that does not apply to modern day *****s.

We have to face reality fellas, MOST women just aren't worth it these days. You're taking an awful chance falling in love with someone who can turn on you at the drop of a hat. That's what's so sinister about women. If a guy is losing interest, it's usually pretty obvious, but with some women, it seems like it comes right out of the blue. Now, I know there were probably a million red flags, and we were just too in love to notice, but it's really scary.

What's the point of it anymore? If I can't honestly love a woman and treat her well, for fear of her thinking I'm weak, then what's the use in having a long term relationship? I know not every woman is like that, but finding a good one is like looking for a needle in a haystack. Plenty of guys thought their girl was different, until they found out how much she was the same.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

Read more...

connor32

Don Juan
Joined
May 25, 2008
Messages
122
Reaction score
2
the sickest part is how they can go from being all over you one minute to breaking up with you literally the next minute. guys arent like that. if im not feeling a chick i dont lead her on just for the hell of it.
 

SinJester

Master Don Juan
Joined
Oct 1, 2007
Messages
1,226
Reaction score
44
Location
Australia
GUYS WAKE UP!!

Women aren't bad, they aren't b!tches, they aren't evil... the just are.

Your putting the blame on them when in reality the problem is you, however that is much harder to acknowledge. I bet if you gave me detailed descriptions of the guys who got dumped I could tell you exactly why.

I wish life worked like we were taught. But the girl flowers and provide for her and everything will work out fine. In reality it doesn't work like that. Most guys fail because they don't understand how women really are.

Go read How To Be The Jerk Women Love - FJ Shark. Hell if you can't be bothered just read the DJ Bible! Wake up guys, stop complaining and start learning. The world isn't going to change, women aren't going to change, only YOU can change.
 

Poonani Maker

Master Don Juan
Joined
Apr 29, 2007
Messages
4,392
Reaction score
927
connor32 said:
if im not feeling a chick i dont lead her on just for the hell of it.
I do. It's my Way of gettin back at these whores.
 

SinJester

Master Don Juan
Joined
Oct 1, 2007
Messages
1,226
Reaction score
44
Location
Australia
Poonani Maker said:
I do. It's my Way of gettin back at these whores.
With all due respect, you have problems.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

Read more...

justiceseeker

Don Juan
Joined
May 11, 2008
Messages
186
Reaction score
8
I don't buy this "It's all our fault" crap. Women have been corrupted. Sure that's partly our fault, but how can you blame guys for the way women act?

You can have the best game in the world, and some bytch can pull the wool over your eyes. It's not our fault that women don't have integrity. It's not our fault that we can't read their minds and know when they're going to leave. It's not our fault if we don't act the right way 100 percent of the time.

**** it, maybe you should ask yourself what went haywire in women's brains. Don't say it's how women are, because women were never like this before. It's a learned behavior and it can be un-learned.
 

Poonani Maker

Master Don Juan
Joined
Apr 29, 2007
Messages
4,392
Reaction score
927
SinJester said:
With all due respect, you have problems.
I feel guilty about this one I've done that to. She's becoming more and more self-conscious about herself, whether she's doing every little thing right in the presence of me or not, whether she thinks I think she's ugly or not. I feel bad about it, but to be honest, I know for a fact that she does it to other guys. She uses them as jealousy ploys to get my attention and on and on so, I don't really feel bad about it. If she's constantly thinking that she doesn't measure up to my specs then so be it.
 

comic_relief

Master Don Juan
Joined
Feb 29, 2004
Messages
3,282
Reaction score
49
Location
Baltimore, MD
With all due respect to everyone, I put the blame 90% on the guy, while only 10% on the female.

I understand that women can occasionally pull the wool over some guys eyes, but lets be real.

YOU chose to go after her (men are usually the initatior), and it is YOUR fault. It's like the guy that b!tches about him hitting the back of a parked car and blaming the other guy. It just doesn't fly.

comic_relief
 

I.A.F.Y.B.

Master Don Juan
Joined
Apr 18, 2007
Messages
2,051
Reaction score
21
Location
USA
SinJester said:
GUYS WAKE UP!!

Wake up guys, stop complaining and start learning. The world isn't going to change, women aren't going to change, only YOU can change.
Sadly, some cannot get it through their fantasy world.
 

Rhoto

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 20, 2007
Messages
782
Reaction score
18
Location
San Francisco
I.A.F.Y.B. said:
Sadly, some cannot get it through their fantasy world.
And such individuals have chosen not to participate nor take responsibility for their lives. Therefore, no attempt to help them should be made because until they realize who controls their life, they are a toxic force.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

Read more...

TopPlayerette

New Member
Joined
Jun 16, 2008
Messages
8
Reaction score
1
Location
Playerland
comic_relief said:
With all due respect to everyone, I put the blame 90% on the guy, while only 10% on the female.

I understand that women can occasionally pull the wool over some guys eyes, but lets be real.

YOU chose to go after her (men are usually the initatior), and it is YOUR fault. It's like the guy that b!tches about him hitting the back of a parked car and blaming the other guy. It just doesn't fly.

comic_relief
I think it takes two to tango, so both choose each other.

It's the same for both sexes. Women choose to date a non-committal guy and then blame all men for it or men choose to date a five-star bimbo and find her humping their best pal, and after that they are bitter about women.

Taking your time to get to know the person helps a lot. If you are the type who rushes any type of relationship don't be surprised if you find out your gf has been banging the UPS guy. Not all women and men are *****es and *****s, there are men and women out there with self-respect and integrity. If they don't have any self-respect, they won't respect you either.
 

darkme_legendary

Don Juan
Joined
Jun 10, 2008
Messages
97
Reaction score
2
We have to face reality fellas, MOST women just aren't worth it these days.
It doesn't mean that they aren't worth if you two are not compatible. It's a numbers game anyway and you cannot truly find out if they are worth before you engage them and you spend some time with them. Of course, there are also women that it's clear from distance that they are not for you. I'm here abotu the gray zone..because if you begin to generalize you look only for the bad part of things. You may lose on the other way a lot of opportunities.

You're taking an awful chance falling in love with someone who can turn on you at the drop of a hat. That's what's so sinister about women.
This is a fear based mindset. When you give love you don't expect something in return. You give it because this is who you really are and you don't need somebody else to do it. I think we have a different view for what love means anyway.

If a guy is losing interest, it's usually pretty obvious,
It's obvious but this doesn't mean that his love cannot come back.
but with some women, it seems like it comes right out of the blue.
This is the female nature. If you accept it or not, it's still there.
 
Top