"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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What's up with this idiot?

rhcp83

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There was this guy in a wheelchair with a HB date. At first, I felt good for him "Look at this guy he has a disability and he isn't letting it get in his way." Then I noticed him and his gf were acting like douches, complaining about the way their drinks were made and asking a waiter he knew to come over.

So out of the blue, the guy says to me and my brother "Excuse me guys, do you also notice that the lights are flickering?" So my brother says "Actually, no." So he says "fvck you, you guys are sh*tfaced too." My brother said "Actually this is coke." He said "You guys are wasted too." My brother says "Wasted on life."

The last 10 minutes or so we were there (we were done eating) the girl was eye fvcking my brother.

Anyway my question is, what exactly was this guy trying to accomplish? Was he trying to sound alpha and impress his date and just failed horribly at it? He reminded me of a guy who has read David DeAngelo and trying to be "****y and funny" but being completely unnatural and failing miserably.

Also what's up with her eye fvcking my brother. He's good looking, sure, but is it that he embarrassed him and therefore impressed her?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Women eye-**** everyone. They also check out guys' physical features constantly. They just deny it, and act like it didn't happen - as they prance around claiming its the personality that counts. All lies!
 

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rhcp83 said:
There was this guy in a wheelchair with a HB date. At first, I felt good for him "Look at this guy he has a disability and he isn't letting it get in his way." Then I noticed him and his gf were acting like douches, complaining about the way their drinks were made and asking a waiter he knew to come over.

So out of the blue, the guy says to me and my brother "Excuse me guys, do you also notice that the lights are flickering?" So my brother says "Actually, no." So he says "fvck you, you guys are sh*tfaced too." My brother said "Actually this is coke." He said "You guys are wasted too." My brother says "Wasted on life."

The last 10 minutes or so we were there (we were done eating) the girl was eye fvcking my brother.

Anyway my question is, what exactly was this guy trying to accomplish? Was he trying to sound alpha and impress his date and just failed horribly at it? He reminded me of a guy who has read David DeAngelo and trying to be "****y and funny" but being completely unnatural and failing miserably.

Also what's up with her eye fvcking my brother. He's good looking, sure, but is it that he embarrassed him and therefore impressed her?
For sure the wheelchair guy was acting like a ****. But I'd be inclined to cut him some slack, personally. Must be fvcking awful being in a wheelchair.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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A lot of people with disabilities compensate mentally by being jackasses. It is an unfortunate truth. But if you know anyone with a disability who doesn't act that way, it does make them that much cooler :cool:
 

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Mike32ct said:
Tell him the lights ARE flickering...60 times per second.

She found your brother physically attractive. Him not taking any sh@t was a bonus.
If he had said that about the lights flickering 60 times per second she would have ripped her clothes off and pounced on him. Girls love references to electronics and physics! ;)
 

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what Bible said... They are just a holes because they have issues. Just let them be and enjoy their happiness *shrugs with grin*
 

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I'm gonna go against all of your guys' pity on the wheelchair guy. NO ONE, wheelchair or not, should every disrespect you. Being in an unfortunate situation does not give anyone the right to disrespect people. Always punish bad behavior.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Well he looked like the kind of guy that would be a douche, wheelchair or not. And it came out of the blue like I said. Like REALLY forced on his part, like he rehearsed it in his head. And I just don't get it. He's in a wheelchair and already has a super hot date (Kim Kardashian looking only not skanky/minimal makeup/naturally hot), he's probably at least getting a bj after the date, why the need to try to impress her (and backfiring) with some canned material?

It seriously reminded me, wheelchair or not, of a guy that just read about "****y and funny."

On another note, this is why dating guru sh1t and "pick up theory" is crap. ****y and funny isn't "a$$hole/douchebag, bad jokes"...it's calm, cool, collective...Luke Perry in 90210 back in the day. He's assured, but it's natural and doesn't try to be a wannabe AMOG. His character in the show was respected because he was a man that was smooth yet respectful.
 

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IamJosan said:
I'm gonna go against all of your guys' pity on the wheelchair guy. NO ONE, wheelchair or not, should every disrespect you. Being in an unfortunate situation does not give anyone the right to disrespect people. Always punish bad behavior.
Agreed. There is never an excuse for being a jerk, and thats all they have are excuses to justify their behaviors. People hurt them, they can't trust anyone, blah blah... Nothing but excuses to make themselves look like the victim; always be able to play this crap card, and have people sympathize with them - as they're treating everyone like trash. Just because their lives are **** - doesn't give them free reign to ruin everyone else's. It's not your fault they are disabled, unlikeable, worthless, etc.

I'd wager that this guy acts in such a manner because he can. He probably figures no one is going to insult him back - given his disability. That's usually why people act the way they do - because they can get away with it. If he was worried that someone would beat his ass, or insult him back - he wouldn't be doing this. Bullies come in all varieties, but they're always cowards hiding behind something.
 
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