"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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What's up with her?

winterfresh

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Her: Younger woman, inexperienced in sex (virgin), Very aloof/introvert personality

Me(Him): Older guy, experienced in a couple girls, Also very aloof/introvert personality

We've been going out for 2-3 months, no sex (because of her inexperience and aloofness i am taking it slower) Fullest extent is kissing on the cheek/ears/etc. She's quite receptive physically. However I just want to check with you dudes (or dudettes) cause I just got back from a date with her. She's introduced me to her parents, friends, etc early in the relationship. She even has me on her friendslist on a friendsterish website. She plays the usual hard to get games, for the past couple of weeks I've been trying to give her a lip kiss and she gives me the forehead maneuver. Remember she's very aloof.

A week ago I indicated that I want to see her consistently on Fridays (this is after 2 months of dating) and she agreed to that. I setup a date with her to play Minigolf with me this Friday. We went, everything is the usual and all went well. She was receptive to my advances and stuff and we had a lot of fun. For the past month we've been doing a Fri/Sat thing and we planned to see each other on Sat morning, I asked if she was going to be ready tomorrow morning and she said that she was having "too much socializing" from which she claimed she had to help a friend because one of her "friends died" and she had church on Sunday. I asked whether I could see her later on Saturday and she said she wanted to take a socializing break and that we'll see each other next weekend. I went ... okay. She then went up to me and gave me a very tight hug and a kiss on the cheek. I can tell you she's never taken the initiative before like that. Before I left, one of her cats came out and she did her usual puppy dog moves to push my forehead away cause she didn't want her cat to run away from me.

So dudes, what's up with her cancelling all of a sudden?

I mentioned to her that I dropped out of high school but I have a GED. (I work full time) Did that affect her deeply during the date?

Yeah about the kissing part, she seems to be giving me the cheek or butting my head in a friendly way. I think she's playing hard to get but I'm not sure and could use some insight from you guys.

(I posted this in the mature men forum but no one's responding)
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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MAVAC!!

You have to MAKE her WANT you, and that doesn't happen with you chasing her all over the damn place.

That, or you could do the same thing she's doing, headbutt her when she tries to kiss you, and when she backs off asking what's up, kiss her, and back off, and again, and after a few times of this, just hit the lips.
 

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virtual_insanity said:
next.....
You don't next people over something like this.

Nexting is reserved for the undesirable, the unworthy of you, not about her playing some game.

Go back and read and practice, noob.
 

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This dating ritual seems very odd and boring.

Are you going to plan to have sex every Friday night as well? Don't be so darn predictable and oh ya... if you aren't having sex after 3 months then what makes you think that is going to change after a year? If you want to turn into a pet like one of her cats then keep doing what your doing.

Otherwise, read the DJ bible, stop making her a huge focus and start making some sexual advances. It most likely too late though for this particular relationship as virtual insanity has put it.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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