"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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What's up with her?

winterfresh

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Her: Younger woman, inexperienced in sex (virgin), Very aloof/introvert personality

Me(Him): Older guy, experienced in a couple girls, Also very aloof/introvert personality

We've been going out for 2-3 months, no sex (because of her inexperience and aloofness i am taking it slower) Fullest extent is kissing on the cheek/ears/etc. She's quite receptive physically. However I just want to check with you dudes (or dudettes) cause I just got back from a date with her. She's introduced me to her parents, friends, etc early in the relationship. She even has me on her friendslist on a friendsterish website. She plays the usual hard to get games, for the past couple of weeks I've been trying to give her a lip kiss and she gives me the forehead maneuver. Remember she's very aloof.

A week ago I indicated that I want to see her consistently on Fridays (this is after 2 months of dating) and she agreed to that. I setup a date with her to play Minigolf with me this Friday. We went, everything is the usual and all went well. She was receptive to my advances and stuff and we had a lot of fun. For the past month we've been doing a Fri/Sat thing and we planned to see each other on Sat morning, I asked if she was going to be ready tomorrow morning and she said that she was having "too much socializing" from which she claimed she had to help a friend because one of her "friends died" and she had church on Sunday. I asked whether I could see her later on Saturday and she said she wanted to take a socializing break and that we'll see each other next weekend. I went ... okay. She then went up to me and gave me a very tight hug and a kiss on the cheek. I can tell you she's never taken the initiative before like that. Before I left, one of her cats came out and she did her usual puppy dog moves to push my forehead away cause she didn't want her cat to run away from me.

So dudes, what's up with her cancelling all of a sudden?

I mentioned to her that I dropped out of high school but I have a GED. (I work full time) Did that affect her deeply during the date?

Yeah about the kissing part, she seems to be giving me the cheek or butting my head in a friendly way. I think she's playing hard to get but I'm not sure and could use some insight from you guys.

(I posted this in the mature men forum but no one's responding)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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MAVAC!!

You have to MAKE her WANT you, and that doesn't happen with you chasing her all over the damn place.

That, or you could do the same thing she's doing, headbutt her when she tries to kiss you, and when she backs off asking what's up, kiss her, and back off, and again, and after a few times of this, just hit the lips.
 

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virtual_insanity said:
next.....
You don't next people over something like this.

Nexting is reserved for the undesirable, the unworthy of you, not about her playing some game.

Go back and read and practice, noob.
 

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This dating ritual seems very odd and boring.

Are you going to plan to have sex every Friday night as well? Don't be so darn predictable and oh ya... if you aren't having sex after 3 months then what makes you think that is going to change after a year? If you want to turn into a pet like one of her cats then keep doing what your doing.

Otherwise, read the DJ bible, stop making her a huge focus and start making some sexual advances. It most likely too late though for this particular relationship as virtual insanity has put it.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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