"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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What's up with flakey guys? (No homo)

nando

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You know guy friends who pretend they are cool with you and agree to chill with you but then ditch you for some other friends without even letting you know. It does not bother me in the way that I feel affected, but more as to why would you simply not inform someone you're not interested or have other plans as opposed to just lying about meeting you there/chill later? What's up with this ***** like behavior? lol!
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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SharinganUser

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I had a friend like that before. There is really not much you can do about it except that when you make plans with them, do it with a grain of salt. In other words, don't expect them to show up, and also you should invite more than just them to hang out.
 

synergy1

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as a general rule of thumb, most of my guy friends who flake out on planned events are lazy. The past two years, I have not made more of an effort to hang out with them. I guess this is how friends go their separate ways after college.
 

nando

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yeah some of them are lazy, but I know some who will agree to come out some where then when they don't turn up, my friends and I go some where else and see that fool there with other people. My point is just say you don't wanna go for whatever reason instead of pretending that you want to come too.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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