Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
Interceptor said:Nando, sometimes women who have BFs do this too.
Also, sometimes women whom are shy and not used to intimacy with men are avoidant acting.
Perhaps you were tryig too hard with her?
Mayeb you gave too many IOUIs and SOIs ?
And she was uncomfortabel with it? So now she avoids you in order to not encourage you?
Nado, dude, look...if a woman is attracte to you, she will be a little more receptive to you.
If she is interestd in you, she will make it her businees to put hersel fin places where she will WANT you to talk to her.
If a woman is not interested, you need to learn how to handle that, dude.
It's OK.
Really it is.
Not every single woman on the Earth is going to be INTERESTED you.
That's life.
Just be normal. Business as usual.
women can tell when yuo're trying too hard to get their attention.
Man, and it just doesn't work that way, nando.
Look, if yuo are DETERMINED to get her 'off the fence', then
If you see her, say 'hey whats up? How have you been?" That's it. Nothing more.
If you guys are too far, do not try to get her attention.
But if you're in normal closer range for a normal polite conversation, you could just say :" Hey Mary, how have you been?
Use her name, and stand there so that you are politely acknowledged.
It's not illegal or wrong to be attracted to women. Or want to be with them.
Or to talk to them and just want to say hello.
Never feel guilty or ashamed for that.
NEVER NEVER.
Stand there and wait...
If she wals away, you have two choices..
Say her name a little bit louder : "Mary?" but with confidence, not desperation. You are acknowledging that she is ignoring you. You are doing this publicly, and youre making the statement for her.
This was her second chance.
IF she ignores you again, you don't pay any attention to her ever again.
Simple. You retract ANY Emotional Investment or thoughts or feelings about her from then on.
Or simply let her walk away that first time, and then do not pay any attention to her again. Leave her alone, and let her live her life.
Let go of any resentment.
Or shame.
Or guilt.
And don't get bitter or angry or defeated.
Don't let this build up inside you. It will get toxic.
And if you do, this is why you see so many guys on this forum getting angry at females who 'rejected' them or 'ignored' them or didn't reciprocate or whatever.
The toxins and venim begin to build and fester, and then you've just made one disapointing situation into a negative Life style.
Another Self Fulfilling Prophecy.
"All women are b*tches! And they;re rude to me!"
Guess what?
that's ALL you will 'see'.
Don't do that to yourself.
This is ONE girl.
One girl,
A girl you barely know, and whom barely knows you.She doesnt owe you anything.
Remember that.
Maybe she doesn't remember who you are.nando said:There is this chick I once struck up a convo with and it went ok. Next time when I see her she will look at me when are walking in opposite directions and quickly look to the side, instead of saying hi or what's up?
What the hell is up with that?
Hey man I just asked for ideas, not to be criticized.DonJuan11 said:Maybe she doesn't remember who you are.
Maybe she thought you were boring in the conversation
Maybe she was thinking about the test she just wrote
Maybe she was thinking about the part-time job she just lost
Maybe she was thinking about her parents divorcing
Maybe she was expecting you to say hi first and invite her to a hot party on the weekend
Maybe she just had a quickie in the bathroom with her bf and was embarrassed.
Or maybe she knew what she missing being in a relationship with you, but just chose not to miss it.
Don't take everything so personally.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.