Im 47 and had two dates for tonight, hot 33 year old and a not quite so hot 43 year old. My mates wife said the younger one is too young. Is that true? Should I choose the older one because she's closer to my age? Thoughts?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Whats too young?
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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What's too young? Check the laws in your local jurisdiction.
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Maybe it is trite to mention it, but I always feel like the "Rule of 7s" is a pretty good litmus test. Take your age, divide in half, add 7, and this is supposed to be the perfect age for you to "date." For you, that would basically be right at the younger chick's age if not making her a bit old.
And full disclaimer, if she is of legal limit in your jurisdiction and you are good with it, then you of course can date them. Old women are always going to say you dating anyone more than 5 years younger than you is "too old." Its their own defense mechanism kicking in as they worry they are obsolete in men's eyes.
And full disclaimer, if she is of legal limit in your jurisdiction and you are good with it, then you of course can date them. Old women are always going to say you dating anyone more than 5 years younger than you is "too old." Its their own defense mechanism kicking in as they worry they are obsolete in men's eyes.
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What's too young? Any and all cooter that could result in you being hailed as Jimmy Saville's modern day counterpart
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."You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.