Im 47 and had two dates for tonight, hot 33 year old and a not quite so hot 43 year old. My mates wife said the younger one is too young. Is that true? Should I choose the older one because she's closer to my age? Thoughts?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Whats too young?
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Bokanovsky
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What's too young? Check the laws in your local jurisdiction.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Barrister
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Maybe it is trite to mention it, but I always feel like the "Rule of 7s" is a pretty good litmus test. Take your age, divide in half, add 7, and this is supposed to be the perfect age for you to "date." For you, that would basically be right at the younger chick's age if not making her a bit old.
And full disclaimer, if she is of legal limit in your jurisdiction and you are good with it, then you of course can date them. Old women are always going to say you dating anyone more than 5 years younger than you is "too old." Its their own defense mechanism kicking in as they worry they are obsolete in men's eyes.
And full disclaimer, if she is of legal limit in your jurisdiction and you are good with it, then you of course can date them. Old women are always going to say you dating anyone more than 5 years younger than you is "too old." Its their own defense mechanism kicking in as they worry they are obsolete in men's eyes.
BaronOfHair
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What's too young? Any and all cooter that could result in you being hailed as Jimmy Saville's modern day counterpart
BPH
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."I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.