"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
what's this mean?
- Thread starter Ridah
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
This is a guess: You wanted to get a tatto with her name or something that symbolizes her on your body. And she said, "You are not the type to get them".
I smell something fishy.
LostbutFound
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The thing is, dont take if personally...I dated a girl that said the same thing...she totally loved the ghetto lookin tough guy with tattoos...but not on me....Im a tall, dark, and big Italian...But Im also extremely smart, and she agreed it wouldnt look good on me...though I look like a guy not a lot would mess with, I just still wouldnt look that great with tatoos on me...Maybe if I was the stupid type that goes around collecting money or other errands for certain "higher people" like some of my relatives...then ok...but im not that type...do I take it personally, no...My uncles even told me that that life is not for me...Though I do have a temper some times and im bigger than a lot of guys, I'd rather be a teacher and live a long life rather than go around breaking guys arms and never knowing when im gonna be done....
Sorry for the rant, just making a point....some guys wear tats well...others dont...but either way, its just a certain taste of hers, almost like a fetish, but if shes not acting on it, then thats all it is...I wouldnt worry about it
I did have this one chick that got a tat of my name. Needless to say, I left that b*tch quick.LostbutFound - A lot of what you said makes sense. In fact, you and I share some similarities. I'm about 6 ft with a stocky frame, people don't tend to mess with me either. I consider myself smart enough(college student), but I'm not a lame ass. I play sports, workout and sh*t.
What pissed me off about the whole ordeal was she wasn't honest with me. She said Eminem, some fatass on tv and a guy with a similar body frame like me looked good with them. But when I asked her why shouldn't I get tattoo's, her reply was, "You look fine the way you are". I dunno, the chick finds them sexy but the dude she's fvckin(me) shouldn't get them. Just doesn't make sense to me. I can't help but to take it personally when she just doesn't give me an answer.
it sounds like a compliment from her. you are sexy enough without a tat according to HER. i wouldn't make a big deal out of this. what are you doing worrying about what she thinks anyway? just do what you want. be careful with those tats though.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.