"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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What's this forum about?

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I stumbled here searching for the attraction forums, and found a thread of posters bashing MM and their forum.

Now I'm cool with that, no "system" is perfect for everything..

The good part about systems as MM and others, is many before you who have had succes with the material, you can go out and get some experience fast. It's good to have some general gameplan starting out, agreed?

So, i looked at the SoSuave.com, and theres tons of material all very different.

I liked the posts on confidence, congruence, acting with beliefs, its good stuff.

Then i go read the forum and theres a post from a Nigga about his Nigga's being Nigga's, and another one about how being a virgin, saving sex for marriage and so on, is good?

So, tell me, im not dissing on you, but what is this DJ'ing really about? :D
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Crazy Asian

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it is finding your passion in life and to respect yourself.
 

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Its building up your personality, and finding your passion in life, like CA said.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Crazy Asian said:
it is finding your passion in life and to respect yourself.
All of the above but authentically.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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ChrizZ

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This forum is mostly about whining, flaming and bashing women.
 

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Wouldn't you like to know? ;)
Just a thought..

ChrizZ said:
This forum is mostly about whining, flaming and bashing women.
That's what it has turned to now. The posts from a year back, and before, are actually quite excellent. I'm sure, OP, that if you dig through the generic crap that is frequently posted on this site, you'll find some hidden gems, and some amazing people.
There will always be *******s on Forums, people who whine, people who are jealous, are haters, etc. You just have to ignore them, and find what really matters.
Peace.
 

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yeah don't expect your problems to be solved by posting on here.
Read only A FEW of the good posts in the dj bible.
reading too many will fvck with your mind.
 

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I suggest that you look for Rollo Tomassi, Senor Fingers, Pook, Giovanni Casanova, VIVAlasVEGASBaby, and many others. You will figure out why we are anti-routine. Going by routine will only make you into something like a social robot that will be screwed if the target changes the game plan, so to speak. Michael Meyers (from Austin Powers fame) put it best, "It's all about the mojo, baby." Mojo is all about being authentic.

DJ-ing is about an internal locus of control (believing that you are in control of your own life instead of anything else) and leaving any "victim mentality" behind (no more pity for any of us).

Personally, I love this forum.

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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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redspicyflag said:
It's about living your life the way you want to

sure it started out as attraction

but now it's a bigger theme

Changed my life completely

:D
agreed

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