Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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What's there to do besides drink?

ENIGMA16

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I'm on a controlled diet where I'm trying not to drink, and it's pretty difficult on the weekends because I seriously have no idea what to do. I end up playing video games all day or sitting around the house doing something by myself.

What is there to do that's social that's as fun as drinking? This sounds absolutely ridiculous to me but I seriously have no idea what to do. :confused:
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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smoke weed
 

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Kenny Powers said:
smoke weed
Well that's a start lol

How about going hiking/walking somewhere nice, fishing, go to the gym and lift some weights, read a book, go to the cinema, go bowling, mountain bike riding.

Anything there piqued your interest? There is WAY more to life than getting drunk. Get out there and live a little man!
 

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There's tons you can do w/o alcohol:

- movies/concerts
- clubbing (just don't drink, or go to an afterhours place that doesn't serve alcohol)
- read
- camp/hike (assuming the climate permits)
- date/phuck (take your gf out, or go out w/ women if you're single. Sex is great exercise if you're going hard).
- NFL sundays :D
- take a hip hop class
- go lift. I often do my heavy day on the weekends because I have more time.
- Cook. If you're eating a lot of food, then you'll have to cook large amounts of food. Its easy to prep all your meals for the coming week over the weekend.
- Clean/house mantainance. Basic household crap.
- Take your dog for walks (if you have a dog).
- Smoke a joint and chill out after a hard work out.
- Get into something like wall climbing or a martial art.

Tons of options man... Just gotta open your mind and check out the possibilities.
 

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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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San Jose California said:
even worse

<waits for all the people to respond with "weed's never killed anyone"
You're a moron.
 

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Only if you can explain why smoking herb every day is even worse than drinking alcohol every day.

Didn't think so.



*Awaits random babble and unproven facts about how weed causes man boobs and makes you become a zombie.
 

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Neon Owl said:
Only if you can explain why smoking herb every day is even worse than drinking alcohol every day.

Didn't think so.
Weed makes you useless. Drinking, in moderation, is relaxing. And all you have the next day is a headache.

Smoke weed, and you have THC in your body for up to 30 days. So if you smoke it everyday, you are ensuring that you are impaired all the time.

I would also say that from my personal experiences knowing people before they started using, and then after, that "weed" creates permanent changes in a person's personality, especially during the formative years.

Marijuana also has a sh!tton of tar in it. Just use your head. Lighting anything on fire and breathing in smoke rather than air, no matter what it is, is not going to be good for you.

Let me repeat: Smoking marijuana is NOT GOOD FOR YOU. Go lift weights instead.

EDIT: If you don't believe me....

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=63680
 

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Darth said:
Weed makes you useless. Drinking, in moderation, is relaxing. And all you have the next day is a headache.
If weed makes YOU useless than that is your problem. Leave the weed for others who can use it and manage to get things done. Maybe you need to manage your time better?

Smoke weed, and you have THC in your body for up to 30 days. So if you smoke it everyday, you are ensuring that you are impaired all the time.
haha I love this one. Look guy, have you even smoked a joint in your entire life? I can tell you from many years of personal experience smoking weed myself that me and every single one of my friends smoked pot and stayed high for no more than 3 hours unless it is eaten. If you can show me some weed that will stone me for 30 days I would pay you handsomely! haha
Sure, there may be traces in your system but to say that you are "impaired all the time" is absolute sh1te. Get some real world experience and then come back to me.


I would also say that from my personal experiences knowing people before they started using, and then after, that "weed" creates permanent changes in a person's personality, especially during the formative years.
"before they started using" lmfao you sound like you're talking about a heroin addict. Of course taking a certain drug every day is going to have an effect on your personality. Take any mind altering substance every day for years and it WILL change you in some way (alcohol is a drug btw :)) It is not a property unique to weed itself in any way.

Marijuana also has a sh!tton of tar in it. Just use your head. Lighting anything on fire and breathing in smoke rather than air, no matter what it is, is not going to be good for you.
So you're a ***** and can't take a little tar? There are these new-fangled things called vapourisers now buddy, no smoke and no tar just the active ingredients. And of course you can always eat it.

Let me repeat: Smoking marijuana is NOT GOOD FOR YOU. Go lift weights
instead.
I lift weights and smoke marijuana. Seems to be agreeing with me so far but what would I know. I don't watch as much psuedo-science propaganda bullsh1t as you so I could be wrong.

EDIT: If you don't believe me....
lmao what is that link supposed to prove? That most people know fvck all about the true effects of weed. Propaganda monkeys the lot of you.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=63680


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Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Darth said:
Weed makes you useless. Drinking, in moderation, is relaxing. And all you have the next day is a headache.

Smoke weed, and you have THC in your body for up to 30 days. So if you smoke it everyday, you are ensuring that you are impaired all the time.

I would also say that from my personal experiences knowing people before they started using, and then after, that "weed" creates permanent changes in a person's personality, especially during the formative years.

Marijuana also has a sh!tton of tar in it. Just use your head. Lighting anything on fire and breathing in smoke rather than air, no matter what it is, is not going to be good for you.

Let me repeat: Smoking marijuana is NOT GOOD FOR YOU. Go lift weights instead.

EDIT: If you don't believe me....

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=63680
Sorry dude, but quoting a sosuave.net thread is kinda anecdotal when you wanna reference something.

Try these ones:

http://www.thelancet.com/journals/lancet/article/PIIS0140-6736(10)61462-6/abstract

http://www.thelancet.com/journals/lancet/article/PIIS0140-6736(09)60746-7/abstract

http://www.cnn.com/2010/HEALTH/11/01/alcohol.harm/index.html

The Lancet article basically shows that alcohol is the most harmful drug overall (when one factors in social and individual harm).

I work in a large ICU. Many of our patients are typically in ICU because of EtOH abuse. In my 1.5 years there, I can think of ONE single case that I've seen where a pt was there for THC issues... and he also had many other underlying health problems.

THC typically has a half life of (2-60 hours) as shown by:

Grotenhermen F (2003). "Pharmacokinetics and pharmacodynamics of cannabinoids". Clin Pharmacokinet 42 (4): 327–6

Abstract:
http://www.ingentaconnect.com/content/adis/cpk/2003/00000042/00000004/art00003

Typically it take 4-5 half lives to "completely eliminate" a drug from the body. Taking the maximum t1/2 of 60 hours, x 5 = 300 hours = 12.5 days... 12.5 < 30. Therefore your statement is incorrect.

The article also gives information on plasma THC concentration kinetics:

"Pulmonary assimilation of inhaled THC causes a maximum plasma concentration within minutes, psychotropic effects start within seconds to a few minutes, reach a maximum after 15-30 minutes, and taper off within 2-3 hours. Following oral ingestion, psychotropic effects set in with a delay of 30-90 minutes, reach their maximum after 2-3 hours and last for about 4-12 hours, depending on dose and specific effect."

There TONS of other evidence out there to show how bad EtOH actually is... I'll let you dig it up for yourself.
 

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When alcohol is ABUSED, it may cause more external damage.

But I still stand by my statement that marijuana is not GOOD for you.

Neon Owl said:
So you're a ***** and can't take a little tar?
LOL...that's not a great argument.

It's also hard for a study to measure laziness, apathy, and other personality changes that don't land you in ICU, but are nonetheless harmful.
 

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Drinking is big in my city, so it takes some creativity to find something to do. There's mma/boxing matches, roller derby, dodgeball leagues, flag football, developing a business plan, etc. Just depends on what you want to do.
 

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Weed and sex.

Weed gives you the munchies. It's great for bulking. It also relaxes you. It's not as toxic and damaging to your body as alcohol is.

Sex also relaxes, and it burns calories... if you're doing it right.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Darth said:
LOL...that's not a great argument.
It wasn't an argument. It was a rhetorical question, the answer to which you clipped off the end so you could make it look like you had a worthwhile comeback.
Good try.
 

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Yo darth all you have to say to shut the people up that are arguing with you about weed is something they can not refute at all.

Weed IS ILLEGAL. Thats it.

They want to make claims that weed has no side effects fine let them just know that weed is still illegal and if you walk around in public all proud you smoke weed and even SMELL like weed well good luck wasting your entire night in jail.

BOTH products have no good side effects to even take in the first place.....its kind of sad and pathetic when people that smoke weed make it some high and mighty thing...not to mention how they are sooo proud smoking it.

I mean they can say it helps with aches and pain and the forever scape goat that it helps with glaucoma but funny thing there are other things that are more effective for these type of things.

I find it funny that people need to smoke to feel good about their life...;/
 

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Take your stupid weed debate somewhere else.

Maybe I should've given some more background. I go to the gym every day, twice a day on Tuesday, Thursday and Saturday. During weekdays I spend my free time reading, studying and learning German. I have plenty to do during the week.

However, primarily on weekend evenings (i.e. Friday and Saturday nights) I find myself sitting at home by myself with no idea what to do, because everyone I know just goes out to the bar, and I don't have strong enough willpower to go and not drink.

So, to rephrase the question, what is there to do on a weekend evening that is social and doesn't involve drinking or eating?
 

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JLay87 said:
So, to rephrase the question, what is there to do on a weekend evening that is social and doesn't involve drinking or eating?
Some kind of activity, group activity. Dancing (or dance class), a team sport soccer is easy to learn. Some kind of hobby. I like to take photos, but that's mostly a loner activity unless I'm going out for a bigger shoot somewhere nice then I invite others along.

So, is there anything you like to do? Anything you've been interested in?
 

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Alle Gory said:
So, is there anything you like to do? Anything you've been interested in?
I'm currently learning German and studying Aerospace Propulsion in my free time as a means of getting into grad school. I'm obviously going to the gym a ton (cardio in the morning 7 days a week plus lifting TRS). I read a lot.

I'm interested in cooking (but my diet kind of kills that idea), playing guitar (although I never play because interest never translates into sitting down and playing, maybe I'm not as interested as I think, IDK), film, photography, music.

I'd be interested in trying any new things, really. I could really use just going and trying something completely new that I've never tried before. I just don't know what people do on free evenings besides go out to drink or eat. Everyone always says the same things, which you've said as well. I don't know any sports or classes that happen on Friday/Saturday nights.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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