Hey there, Penalty here. Long time lurker, short time poster.
This post comes after alot of thinking. It comes from studying the way we interact with other people in our lives and more on topic, girls. A common mistake I have noticed among my long, long time as a lurker is some guys trying desperately to TELL her how great he is, appealing to that logical side of her.
This brings me to a rather good analogy that applies here, it is the concept of "the story" and a rule that concerns the unraveling of a good story and that is SHOW, DON'T TELL.
Telling implies relaying all the facts. Telling someone something is a logical exchange of ideas. You tell someone you will meet them here at X O'clock. You tell them what you did at school. It all revolves around the relaying of fact and the use of logic.
When did telling a girl you were a great guy ever work in your favour? You have to SHOW her you are a great guy and you have to hook her onto your story. You are most immersed in a story when there is action (not necesarily explosions and gunplay and fighting etc) but when there is tension and the potential for action, and the further the payoff of that action, this is when the story is at its most exciting.
There is a time and a place for TELLING in a story but not all the time. A story needs emotion, it needs tension it needs a "memorable character" - you.
What else can "the story" help analogise?
Well we have your openers. This can be roughly equated to the blurb on the back of a book. A very short window you have to hook your reader and pull her in.
Then we have looks and the physical side. An intriguing cover can certainly draw us and attract us to the blurb. The cover can be mysterious, it could look dangerous, it might look exciting...
The point of this post is just to help drive home the importance of showing a girl who you are and telling her who you are. Let her experience you, not recieve the directors commentary (Okay, thats film, not books! lol). Don't try to make your interaction with her some logical relay of facts, figures and data between you the two of you, it should be an "interesting read" for her. Give it some tension and some action and she will keep reading.
with regards, Penalty
This post comes after alot of thinking. It comes from studying the way we interact with other people in our lives and more on topic, girls. A common mistake I have noticed among my long, long time as a lurker is some guys trying desperately to TELL her how great he is, appealing to that logical side of her.
This brings me to a rather good analogy that applies here, it is the concept of "the story" and a rule that concerns the unraveling of a good story and that is SHOW, DON'T TELL.
Telling implies relaying all the facts. Telling someone something is a logical exchange of ideas. You tell someone you will meet them here at X O'clock. You tell them what you did at school. It all revolves around the relaying of fact and the use of logic.
When did telling a girl you were a great guy ever work in your favour? You have to SHOW her you are a great guy and you have to hook her onto your story. You are most immersed in a story when there is action (not necesarily explosions and gunplay and fighting etc) but when there is tension and the potential for action, and the further the payoff of that action, this is when the story is at its most exciting.
There is a time and a place for TELLING in a story but not all the time. A story needs emotion, it needs tension it needs a "memorable character" - you.
What else can "the story" help analogise?
Well we have your openers. This can be roughly equated to the blurb on the back of a book. A very short window you have to hook your reader and pull her in.
Then we have looks and the physical side. An intriguing cover can certainly draw us and attract us to the blurb. The cover can be mysterious, it could look dangerous, it might look exciting...
The point of this post is just to help drive home the importance of showing a girl who you are and telling her who you are. Let her experience you, not recieve the directors commentary (Okay, thats film, not books! lol). Don't try to make your interaction with her some logical relay of facts, figures and data between you the two of you, it should be an "interesting read" for her. Give it some tension and some action and she will keep reading.
with regards, Penalty
