"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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What's the real reason that's holding you back from meeting women?

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Bumsniff

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What's the real reason that's holding you back from meeting women besides not being "confident"? Is there some visible deformity/ twitch or mental issue that you don't want to reveal on SS? Is it that you live with your parents and you think women will think less of you? Drug habit?

Is there something else that most posters who don't go out or talk to women have that they don't want to mention on SS that might be the reason they prefer to just post on here and not actually work on what might be preventing them or thinking is preventing them from meeting women?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Zion

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I think the biggest problem everyone has is the fear of a hurt ego.That's the first thing you need to overcome.Then,for me, the idea of futility.


For example , I never approach the shiny 10s.Shiny 10s are those about which everything suggests high-maintenance.They got that huge gold digger aura about them.You look at them and you know that if you don't drive a 2013 Bmw they won't give you the time of a day and that her ex was a 70 year old big shot even though she's almost 20. And I can barely afford to fill the gas tank of my 2001.


I'm so attracted to that type that I sometimes feel I'd be willing to give my left nut for a premature ejaculation with her. Talk about putting women on a pedestal,huh ? But no ,that's not what I'm doing.

Thing is that in my mind they don't look for a human being, but for a walking credit card. And sadly,there's always armies of idiots willing to provide just that. So to me , it just seems futile.

I don't know,I might be wrong, but as of right now , that's whats keeping me from taking initiative towards them.
 
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The Duke

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When I was chasing "strange" all the time, the problem was never with meeting women. The problem was meeting QUALITY women worth keeping long term. A quality woman to me is one that is an HB8 or greater, good personality, good job, respects me, and is a little old school when it comes to relationships. Those types aren't found on every street corner.
 
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i live out in the boonies, number of girls here is very limited, 99% are HB1-3 ...
i can't leave this place for another 2 years,. once in a while there is a miracle and i do see a decent looking girl i approach her, but honestly i have to wait till i leave this desert
 
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