Seems to me most people just get some time consuming boring job (unless by some chance the boring job isn't boring to them), get married to some woman who if she isn't ugly or fat already, will be sooner than later, have kids, and that's how the world continues? Am I missing anything?
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
What's the point of life?
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
yes you need to create the life you want. The majority of the human race are sheep. They see and do what the person next to them is doing. they see them driving a certain car and think I need that car. You need to step back and think I'm on earth for a certain time. I can do anything I want.
DonGorgon
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to make more humans and mAke sure they live long enough to make more humans .. thats all nature wants from us
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This^^^DonGorgon said:
The answer to life is not '42'.
It's love - children's love, specifically. Your child's love for you, to be exact.
Unfortunately, it's one of those things you can't explain very well, until you have one yourself. Then it is so obvious as to be completely self-evident.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
It's not like there's a shortage of humans. Kids are great if they're yours; I'm sure if I accidentally had one, I'd be very fond of the child. But the best thing I could do for your kids is to not make more kids of my own, so as not to compete with them for the world's very finite amount of resources. Failure to multiply does not make a life pointless, especially in an overpopulated species.
I absolutely love this question. I'll offer my opinion, but I always say take other people's answers, including mine, with a grain of salt.
From a natural perspective, and as DonGorgon said, the basic point is to perpetuate the species...but we have so much time in our lives, and the power to choose what to do with it, so I believe there's more to it than just that. Also, that's just plain boring to me, so I choose to squeeze out more.
Taking it past the biological imperative, the point of life is whatever you want it to be. People will try to tell you how to live your life, but the fact is, if you take a look around, NO ONE actually knows what's going on here. NO ONE!!! Some people have more experience and wisdom than others, but no one knows what this crazy experiment called life really is. We're just thrown into this world where countless people will claim to have truths and "the way", but it all comes down to what you want it to be. You can do pretty much anything.
Do you want to be an agent for change against what you consider injustices?
Do you want to indulge in every pleasure possible, and focus your life around them? Drugs? Sex?
Do you want to run rampant and make people's lives miserable?
Do you want to be a source of positivity for everyone you meet?
Do you want to be a cynic, be lazy, and throw blame around for your misgivings?
I mean, you can literally do anything. Ultimately, I want to live to make my life, and the lives of others around me more enjoyable, because I believe enjoying this crazy process of life is one of its greatest purposes. It sounds like you're beginning to question what exactly is going on here, but that's a great thing. A life without questioning and reflection is a life not worth living.
From a natural perspective, and as DonGorgon said, the basic point is to perpetuate the species...but we have so much time in our lives, and the power to choose what to do with it, so I believe there's more to it than just that. Also, that's just plain boring to me, so I choose to squeeze out more.
Taking it past the biological imperative, the point of life is whatever you want it to be. People will try to tell you how to live your life, but the fact is, if you take a look around, NO ONE actually knows what's going on here. NO ONE!!! Some people have more experience and wisdom than others, but no one knows what this crazy experiment called life really is. We're just thrown into this world where countless people will claim to have truths and "the way", but it all comes down to what you want it to be. You can do pretty much anything.
Do you want to be an agent for change against what you consider injustices?
Do you want to indulge in every pleasure possible, and focus your life around them? Drugs? Sex?
Do you want to run rampant and make people's lives miserable?
Do you want to be a source of positivity for everyone you meet?
Do you want to be a cynic, be lazy, and throw blame around for your misgivings?
I mean, you can literally do anything. Ultimately, I want to live to make my life, and the lives of others around me more enjoyable, because I believe enjoying this crazy process of life is one of its greatest purposes. It sounds like you're beginning to question what exactly is going on here, but that's a great thing. A life without questioning and reflection is a life not worth living.
Diaforetikos
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Do you feel pointless or something?
PapiChulo
Master Don Juan
No point in life per se- invent and creat your own meaning in life and pursue! I am here to have fun and enjoy, see, and experience as much as possible. Once everything is crossed off on my list, I am good...
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Serg897
Master Don Juan
Truth. If you see your purpose in life as only having children you suffer from a real lack of perspective. The population of the planet is now over 7 billion and growing exponentially - future generations wont thank us for handing them the problems they will face when carrying capacity is reached and there isn't enough food for everyone (there are already many places with food shortages in the underdeveloped world). There are already enough people breeding.
I think we have to find our own purpose, and see if we can change the world for the better.
And no, having sex with as many women as possible in our finite lifetimes is also not a good purpose.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
"Existence precedes essence." Look it up.
Here's a good writeup, surprising since it's coming from 'about.com'..
http://atheism.about.com/od/existentialistthemes/a/existence.htm
Here's a good writeup, surprising since it's coming from 'about.com'..
http://atheism.about.com/od/existentialistthemes/a/existence.htm
Find something to give your life meaning and go do it.
I am a selfish person. Mine is to enjoy each day I am above ground whether it be sitting around doing nothing, helping family members, hanging out with friends or love ones. As long as I am help and responsible, I don't really care what happens around me.
Others can help populate the earth, I am not going to have kids.
I am a selfish person. Mine is to enjoy each day I am above ground whether it be sitting around doing nothing, helping family members, hanging out with friends or love ones. As long as I am help and responsible, I don't really care what happens around me.
Others can help populate the earth, I am not going to have kids.