"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
What's the point in being a Don jaun anyway?!
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
jcap said:
I'm a Winner!,
I've made some MAJOR breakthroughs with myself in the last 6 months...some of which i'm sooo very proud of and have to remind myself i actually did them.
I dunno something is missing, and i think alot of you guys on here know exactly what i mean.
I guess it is a case of looking at myself and letting women be less of a priority.Think it's the little bit of AFC still left in me...the bit about women being the "Ultimate" sign of validation of my worth.
As in to make myself feel like i'm worth something i pull these girls who mean nothing but it still makes me happy with myself for a short period of time.
Also i think i'm beginning to realize that i'm worth more than just a guy who sleeps around with girls...but a guy who is worth enough to have himself a girlfriend who likes him for who he is.
I'm always acting around people, more so in work...to the point it get's me down and makes me feel little.guess i have to TRY to be myself and screw what people around me think.
Demonic
Let me give you a tip I hope you take on board.
99% of the time whatever you've experienced, someone else in the world has also experienced it and still drove to success in whatever area they've aimed for.
there are thousands of books and material out there that can help with this. You don't have to wait until you in your 40s 50s or 80s until you eventually 'find' what your looking for through dumb luck and chance.
dont wait around and moan about things and hope everything will fix itself. dont be reactive. take charge of your own sh.t - that includes you physical and mental wellbeing.
Read Anthony Robbins, start from there - working on inner game. You can finish one of his books in a week max and I guarantee you'll see the world in a different perspective, it only takes a moment of awareness.
The journey, along with the discoveries made along it, is the most important.
Thanks for the advice, i'll look that author up in abit...i'm out tonight but i have a good feeling about it.No longer will i go out to pick up women but rather to have fun and let myself relax and be myself around people.James45 said:
-I am a social, sexy guy who loves having fun
keep saying it over and over and listen to a piece of music that really gets you going. also, punch the air or something to link your feelings to that movement each time you say it to yourself.
You don't have to say that exact line, it can be anything you want. Make sure it starts 'I am' and say it like you mean it with the whole world behind you.
It may not be something you've done before but go ahead and try it - you'll lose nothing and gain experience and insight to how you work and how easy it is to get into a great state.
Remember: You are not what you were yesterday. You are what you are NOW.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.