"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
What's the point in being a Don jaun anyway?!
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
jcap said:
I'm a Winner!,
I've made some MAJOR breakthroughs with myself in the last 6 months...some of which i'm sooo very proud of and have to remind myself i actually did them.
I dunno something is missing, and i think alot of you guys on here know exactly what i mean.
I guess it is a case of looking at myself and letting women be less of a priority.Think it's the little bit of AFC still left in me...the bit about women being the "Ultimate" sign of validation of my worth.
As in to make myself feel like i'm worth something i pull these girls who mean nothing but it still makes me happy with myself for a short period of time.
Also i think i'm beginning to realize that i'm worth more than just a guy who sleeps around with girls...but a guy who is worth enough to have himself a girlfriend who likes him for who he is.
I'm always acting around people, more so in work...to the point it get's me down and makes me feel little.guess i have to TRY to be myself and screw what people around me think.
Demonic
Let me give you a tip I hope you take on board.
99% of the time whatever you've experienced, someone else in the world has also experienced it and still drove to success in whatever area they've aimed for.
there are thousands of books and material out there that can help with this. You don't have to wait until you in your 40s 50s or 80s until you eventually 'find' what your looking for through dumb luck and chance.
dont wait around and moan about things and hope everything will fix itself. dont be reactive. take charge of your own sh.t - that includes you physical and mental wellbeing.
Read Anthony Robbins, start from there - working on inner game. You can finish one of his books in a week max and I guarantee you'll see the world in a different perspective, it only takes a moment of awareness.
The journey, along with the discoveries made along it, is the most important.
Thanks for the advice, i'll look that author up in abit...i'm out tonight but i have a good feeling about it.No longer will i go out to pick up women but rather to have fun and let myself relax and be myself around people.James45 said:
-I am a social, sexy guy who loves having fun
keep saying it over and over and listen to a piece of music that really gets you going. also, punch the air or something to link your feelings to that movement each time you say it to yourself.
You don't have to say that exact line, it can be anything you want. Make sure it starts 'I am' and say it like you mean it with the whole world behind you.
It may not be something you've done before but go ahead and try it - you'll lose nothing and gain experience and insight to how you work and how easy it is to get into a great state.
Remember: You are not what you were yesterday. You are what you are NOW.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.