What's the most number of kids you would put up with with a single mommy?

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

logicallefty

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May 18, 2014

I always look more at the relationship the kid(s) have with dad, how the kid(s) act, and how mommy treats them. Woman I am with now has 3 kids, one adult and two still in school. But me and their dad have been friends for over 20 years so it's kind of a different thing. I know he isn't going to vanish from their lives and/or give me any cr@p what so ever. Woman hates it that he and I are still friends, but she will get over it.

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.