I saw this on another forum
http://media.npr.org/programs/newsnotes/features/2006/mar/carter/blurb200_lg.jpg
post away
http://media.npr.org/programs/newsnotes/features/2006/mar/carter/blurb200_lg.jpg
post away
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
HandyAndy said:I saw this on another forum
http://media.npr.org/programs/newsnotes/features/2006/mar/carter/blurb200_lg.jpg
post away
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
33 year old Kevin Carter was his name. Tragic story.Skel said:dont know if this is true but from what I have heard the person who photographed this commited suicide a few months after this photo hit the front page of, I think it was national geographic or something like that.
The kid in the photo was walking to a town a few miles away for food but never made it.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
That picture is described in House of Leaves by Mark Danielewski... I never knew it was a real photograph.HandyAndy said:I saw this on another forum
http://media.npr.org/programs/newsnotes/features/2006/mar/carter/blurb200_lg.jpg
post away
Really?Rudra said:On the beach in Surfer´s, Australia.. Little japanese guy, about 5 or 6 y.o., standing beside his parents, both all bloated and shYt from water, both drowned trying to pull him out of the 3 m high waves. Paramedics worked at them for qute some time, but...
Picture from hell.
Yup. Went to TSS for a year back in the day. BTW remember three guys from Toronto there)Quiksilver said:Really?
I used to live there... It's a pretty wicked beach, soo many lifeguards.
I guess **** happens tho, eh?
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.