Glassguy
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A bit of continuation to the story, no contact so far, yet some of her friends invited me to go out with them specifically implying she will be there... another women tactic i guess.
What I didn't mention in the beginning is that with this girl we went out few times on dates (3 months ago, while what I described happened 1 week ago), when she suddenly decided to stop it, to which I replied no worries. (she came to my apart, but gave me a legitimate reason why she cant have sex for the next few months)
Another perspective which I received soon is that she is perceiving me as "player" type, ( I am not player/Don Juan, but I do like to look after myself, dress well and I do hit the gym) and that, especially since our last convo, where she told me that it seems i am Interested only in sex with her, and few times mentioned "you are such a player". it makes me think that I should reverse my current approach to 180 degrees and make her comfortable again, yet I will be going against my word when I told her to contact me after she solves her issues. (Yet It might be another manipulation to get me in the friendzone).
Also it seems it's very hard for me to handle that the ball is in her court at the moment, and that I am powerless to do anything, without breaking my word.
I think I am being sucked into oneitis here and I would like to break it asap , therefore I can see only 2 options:
1. Remove her from all my contacts fb/whatsapp etc.
2. If the player perspective is right, to ask her out again and if she says no, to remove her after that.
What would you suggest, it seems I am much more invested than I though.
What I didn't mention in the beginning is that with this girl we went out few times on dates (3 months ago, while what I described happened 1 week ago), when she suddenly decided to stop it, to which I replied no worries. (she came to my apart, but gave me a legitimate reason why she cant have sex for the next few months)
Another perspective which I received soon is that she is perceiving me as "player" type, ( I am not player/Don Juan, but I do like to look after myself, dress well and I do hit the gym) and that, especially since our last convo, where she told me that it seems i am Interested only in sex with her, and few times mentioned "you are such a player". it makes me think that I should reverse my current approach to 180 degrees and make her comfortable again, yet I will be going against my word when I told her to contact me after she solves her issues. (Yet It might be another manipulation to get me in the friendzone).
Also it seems it's very hard for me to handle that the ball is in her court at the moment, and that I am powerless to do anything, without breaking my word.
I think I am being sucked into oneitis here and I would like to break it asap , therefore I can see only 2 options:
1. Remove her from all my contacts fb/whatsapp etc.
2. If the player perspective is right, to ask her out again and if she says no, to remove her after that.
What would you suggest, it seems I am much more invested than I though.
