Whats the message here lol?

Robert28

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You sure of that? Because you're hanging around a girl right now who just fed you the "lets be friends" line hoping for casual sex.




Will see how it goes = orbiting.

Get laid or get out. No in between here.
Yep! The let’s be friends line should have been your wake up of what to expect. It seems like you want to give this girl one shot so do that.....ONE SHOT AND ONE SHOT ONLY. Sex happens that one time or it doesn’t, then you decide what to do. Anymore than onetime and no sex then you can go ahead and declare yourself mayor of friendsville
 
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thanks guys, managed to get a better view of the funny thing that happened, never someone before explained to me that she has a boyfriend after a hookup, seemed illogical to me - either want to **** me or don't go out with me again.

seems the backburner/orbiter/ljbf was the idea here. :D
 

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if you smell something fishy like that, would you confront it on the spot?
Seems needy to me to accuse someone of lying

I think you did the right thing by telling her to call you when she is single.

Having said that, she is clearly untrustworthy and I would never be exclusive with her
 

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I think you did the right thing by telling her to call you when she is single.

Having said that, she is clearly untrustworthy and I would never be exclusive with her
manipulative, deceiving personality traits, yeah just for casual sex, nothing else.

Interesting thought - do weak man make women deceiving/manipulative, so they can avoid the unpleasent conversations with them?
Or some of them are just the way they are?
T.e. Is it coming from us as man , as women are reflecting us, or it's the hypergamy/validation play always?
 
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manipulative, deceiving personality traits, yeah just for casual sex, nothing else.

Interesting thought - do weak man make women deceiving/manipulative, so they can avoid the unpleasent conversations with them?
Or some of them are just the way they are?
T.e. Is it coming from us as man , as women are reflecting us, or it's the hypergamy/validation play always?
IMHO, some women are just skanky. Fvcked up, low value, no morals, attention seeking man destroying beings. This girl is not necessarily all of that, but dude look at her actions? Making out with you all night while she has a BF.

I'd steer far clear of this one
 

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Put yourself in her boyfriends position.

Then imagine her telling some guy you have no idea about exactly what she’s telling you now.

That’s where this will lead for you a year down the road.

This is a casual sex girl only, walk away for anything different and don’t look back.
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A bit of continuation to the story, no contact so far, yet some of her friends invited me to go out with them specifically implying she will be there... another women tactic i guess.

What I didn't mention in the beginning is that with this girl we went out few times on dates (3 months ago, while what I described happened 1 week ago), when she suddenly decided to stop it, to which I replied no worries. (she came to my apart, but gave me a legitimate reason why she cant have sex for the next few months)

Another perspective which I received soon is that she is perceiving me as "player" type, ( I am not player/Don Juan, but I do like to look after myself, dress well and I do hit the gym) and that, especially since our last convo, where she told me that it seems i am Interested only in sex with her, and few times mentioned "you are such a player". it makes me think that I should reverse my current approach to 180 degrees and make her comfortable again, yet I will be going against my word when I told her to contact me after she solves her issues. (Yet It might be another manipulation to get me in the friendzone).

Also it seems it's very hard for me to handle that the ball is in her court at the moment, and that I am powerless to do anything, without breaking my word.

I think I am being sucked into oneitis here and I would like to break it asap , therefore I can see only 2 options:

1. Remove her from all my contacts fb/whatsapp etc.
2. If the player perspective is right, to ask her out again and if she says no, to remove her after that.

What would you suggest, it seems I am much more invested than I though.
 

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Not trust worthy, possibly getting oneitis.
Recipe for disaster.
Run run, delete delete
 
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