"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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After a little thought, this is what I would do:

1.) Give her the chance to put your shyte in a box and pick it up. Drive by at the time you say youll be there and its either there or not.

2.) If its not there, go buy new tickets that are better seats. Text her to enjoy the concert because you bought better seats to take your new friend. Take a buddy and not some new chick you just smashed. You're too relationshippy. Concert tickets, vacations, flowers, etc are for girlfriends. This one is not your girlfriend.

I always make better decisions after putting a little logical thinking into it.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Its 2018. There's a very good chance you can reprint the tickets. Check that first. One of my side hustles is ticket brokering, and it is very easy to do.

And agreed with @Glassguy . Do not take another girl. Find a buddy! Just make a rule to keep $hit very minimal the first couple months. You smashed this girl once and your taking her to a concert? Is she paying?
 

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these tickets were 150 bucks each.... the ghoster chick runs and hides from me in public because she is immature even though she's 29.... she wont be going to the concert but she damn sure ain't gonna answer

ok I alsed my buddy to go. but tickets might be sold out
 
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Why on earth are your tickets at her place?

You likely will not get the tix back in a ‘by the book fashion’. Police won’t care if you live in a bigger city, she clearly doesn’t, her friend doesn’t, you’re hooped.

However *puts on shades*
There’s always other options to get what’s yours back; but you may not like it.
 

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I'm doing anything illegal. fvck it she can have them.

I live in a small town
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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