Bonhomme
Master Don Juan
Classic one-itis idiocy: not going for an easy lay with a gal who I was attracted to who was hitting on me hard because another gal I wanted more was there.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I still fall for this one once in a while. I know now to just keep on truckin', just keep on doing your thing, and if you're feeling really brave call the other girl over and try to make her jealous... or maybe even get your first threesome goin.Bonhomme said:Classic one-itis idiocy: not going for an easy lay with a gal who I was attracted to who was hitting on me hard because another gal I wanted more was there.
Yeah, been there, got the t-shirt. I was really attracted to the one who was all over me, too; it's just that I had a super crush (okay, "one-itis") on the other one. Really, though, the issue was just as I was too pvssy to pursue the one-itis, I was also too much of a pvyss to do anything with the one who was all over me. Just an all around fvkwit is the simplest way to describe me.Classic one-itis idiocy: not going for an easy lay with a gal who I was attracted to who was hitting on me hard because another gal I wanted more was there.
Hmm, I don't know if that's so bad. I mean, as long as you did end up talking to her etc. Sure, "live life on your terms" and all that jazz, but if there's someone you're really attracted to, a tactical move like that can't be all that bad. As long as you didn't just keep attending the youth group and sitting there like a moron, not saying anything to her, week after week, I think we can give you a pass.Back in HS, I started going to a youth group, specifically so I could talk to this one girl. It was pathetic. And I'm sure that pretty much bought my ticket to Hell.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
the_great_gaia said:i was driving and i told my girlfriend that i loved her. she goes "For Real?". So i stopped my car in mid-traffic, get out, go on her side of the car (passenger side) and I open her door and tell her to her face: "Yes, I Really Love You.."
This happened yesterday, by the way