"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Whats the best way to meet women this summer as a newly single Dad?

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Hi everybody, I split up with my sons mother and after 6 months am ready to meet new woman in my life. I am 28 and I want to enjoy meeting and dating different women this summer. What activities would you guys recommend to help me meet as many woman as possible? Also, I'm gonna start doing some approaches and know that a lot of rejection is coming my way lo. What's the best mindset when dealing with rejection?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Approaching at Coffee Shops and Cafes in the morning

Parks and malls in the afternoon

Bars and clubs at night

Events that women like such as Coachella or the Governor's ball.

I just saw an Instagram story post of a Bachata dance class where there were so many more women than men that there were 3 pairs of women dancing together.
 

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Popular beaches and casinos are other options. Casinos have the added benefit of knowing everyone is 21+
 

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Posting up by the women's restroom of a busy shopping mall or hanging out in the ladies intimate apparel section of the local department store are some sure fire activities that will put you in the zone.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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This can be good though be careful with this. Pool parties as a whole tend to be sausage fests.

I did a thread on pool parties and it got 0 responses. I don't think most men have success at bigger pool parties.


A smaller apartment complex pool has better potential than a somewhat organized pool party like I described in the attached thread.

It would be so easy for a single dad to take a kid to a park and pick up single moms.
 

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This can be good though be careful with this. Pool parties as a whole tend to be sausage fests.
Really? That kind of surprise me, I would think women would be more interested in that to catch some sun and get a tan.
 

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Really? That kind of surprise me, I would think women would be more interested in that to catch some sun and get a tan.
There's a difference between meeting women at the pool of an apartment complex of 200+ units in a bigger city vs. meeting women at a larger pool party with with DJs connected to a business (bar/restaurant, hotel) with hundreds of semi-strangers attending.

The apartment complex pool is typically less people (usually less than 30). Most apartment complex pools don't have enough room for larger parties. It's kind of close to social circle game. Residents of the complex can meet each other. Often times, residents of that complex have a friend or two joining them who doesn't live in the complex. It's actually easier to approach in this setting as people are more relaxed here as compared to the nightlife type vibe of the second type of pool party.

A man will need approach skill even at a small apartment complex pool, just as he would need skill at the bigger pool parties connected to a business.

The bigger pool parties attached to businesses in most cities (I'm not including the Las Vegas Strip as part of this definition) are sausage fests because a lot of groups of guys have the same idea you have. It's a more nightlife type vibe but during the daytime hours. There are more groups of guys who go to these than groups of women. Also, many couples go to these.
 
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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