What's the best thing to text message a girl you just met?

[King Of Nowhere]

Hi, i met this girl yesterday on the school bus. I chatted her up and got her number, and I want to hang out with her sometime this weekend( Or, is this too soon?). I wont see her tomorrow( No school on fridays) , so i cant ask her in person. Plus im not a big fan of phone calls. What should I text to her or what would you text to any girl you just met( Please dont say Hi, this is blah blah blah and it was nice meeting you? that would should kinda lame for a high school-)

 

[Vice]

That's not too soon at all. Strike while the iron's hot.

Call her. That way you don't have to waste precious mental resources thinking of what to text, and you also have her invest more of her attention towards you. When she's talking on the phone, she can concentrate only on you, where if you texted, you would be only a minor synapse in her brain and then somethine else in the distraction-laden world of a teenage girl would capture her attention.

Here's the steps:

1. Figure out what you're planning on doing this weekend. Make sure that you're going to do it WITH or WITHOUT her. Example: I'm going salsa dancing on Friday, you're welcome to come along (I actually am, and I invited a girl earlier this week to do so).

2. CALL her. This is VITAL, for the above reason. Talk about something interesting that happened a few days ago, like how you saw this dog chasing a kid on a bike or something (if you can't do that, you might want to look into creating a more interesting life). Remember that what's mundane to you might be interesting and exciting to her. I always have girls ask me about what I do, a boring topic to me is interesting to her.

3. INVITE her out, making sure that she understands that you're going with or without her. This also takes care of any awkward "What do you want to do?" questions that always come up at your age group. If she says no or is a little wishy-washy, don't get emotional or butthurt. She may already have plans. It gives you an opportunity and topic to talk about next time you see/call her.

4. Go out and have fun!

Lastly, welcome to the forum, if you already got a girl's number on the bus at your age, you're already ahead of most guys.

 

[King Of Nowhere]

That's not too soon at all. Strike while the iron's hot.

Call her. That way you don't have to waste precious mental resources thinking of what to text, and you also have her invest more of her attention towards you. When she's talking on the phone, she can concentrate only on you, where if you texted, you would be only a minor synapse in her brain and then somethine else in the distraction-laden world of a teenage girl would capture her attention.

Here's the steps:

1. Figure out what you're planning on doing this weekend. Make sure that you're going to do it WITH or WITHOUT her. Example: I'm going salsa dancing on Friday, you're welcome to come along (I actually am, and I invited a girl earlier this week to do so).

2. CALL her. This is VITAL, for the above reason. Talk about something interesting that happened a few days ago, like how you saw this dog chasing a kid on a bike or something (if you can't do that, you might want to look into creating a more interesting life). Remember that what's mundane to you might be interesting and exciting to her. I always have girls ask me about what I do, a boring topic to me is interesting to her.

3. INVITE her out, making sure that she understands that you're going with or without her. This also takes care of any awkward "What do you want to do?" questions that always come up at your age group. If she says no or is a little wishy-washy, don't get emotional or butthurt. She may already have plans. It gives you an opportunity and topic to talk about next time you see/call her.

4. Go out and have fun!

Lastly, welcome to the forum, if you already got a girl's number on the bus at your age, you're already ahead of most guys.

Thanks for the advice! But, I think i need to work on making my life more exciting all I did this week was go to summer school, play football, and took a tour of Conseco Fieldhouse(were the Indiana pacers ). Also, she is a shy girl how do you get her to open up more?

 

[Vice]

If she's shy, you will have to be a man and lead her, and initiate EVERYTHING. That includes conversation, dates, kissing, and sex. Just make her feel comfortable.

Where do you live? I found that girls are alot more interested in guys who are passionate about some kind of watersport. I'm learning to surf and I always talk about surfing. I also fly airplanes, but not many people can relate to that. Plus I'm still learning how to do that too.

 

[King Of Nowhere]

If she's shy, you will have to be a man and lead her, and initiate EVERYTHING. That includes conversation, dates, kissing, and sex. Just make her feel comfortable.

Where do you live? I found that girls are alot more interested in guys who are passionate about some kind of watersport. I'm learning to surf and I always talk about surfing. I also fly airplanes, but not many people can relate to that. Plus I'm still learning how to do that too.

I live in Indianapolis there is not alot of watersports to do around here except for swimming.

 

[Vice]

Well, watersports are MY thing. Find what works for you.

 

[King Of Nowhere]

I called her ,chatted with her and we are going mini-golfing next weekend.

 

[Vice]

There you go.

If you had texted, you would still be sending cute smiley faces and other bullsh*t to each other. How does it feel to get past that?

Good work.