"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
What's something mean to say to a girl who keeps on hitting on me so she'll stop?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
chinwaggler
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honestly you're asking how to be mean?
Igetit!
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You do this long enough,and I guarantee you she'll be running for the hills to get away from you.
More Cowbell Please
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Asteconn
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Well what does this girl look like? You say she's gross,but is she really? Or do you just not like her? Because if she's a 6 or a 5 at a minimum,then you know she probably has some afcs after her,but she turns them all down. Therefore,if you pretend to be an afc like all the other guys,then she'll want to distance herself from you too. Is she really gross? Like is she obese,with a face full of acne,bad breath,with teeth missing or something? She can't be that bad.Demystify said:
The suggestion from Asteconn seems pretty good,unless she thinks something is up when you say it.
theunflushables
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
SharinganUser
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Seriously though, don't be mean about it because it could come back to bite you later on.
Like Asteconn said, tell her you see her as a sister and then tell her you aren't ready for anything serious.
Demystify said:
Why are you putting yourself in the position to be hugged or patted every once in a while by her? Why don't you keep yourself busy? Why don't you go where she is not? Why don't you keep busy with sports / reading / school / college? Why don't you volunteer?
You seem to enjoy the attention she is giving you. It's nice to feel wanted, even by a girl who is not good looking, its good for the male ego.
Furyguy
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.