"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
What's something mean to say to a girl who keeps on hitting on me so she'll stop?
- Thread starter Demystify
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
chinwaggler
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honestly you're asking how to be mean?
Igetit!
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You do this long enough,and I guarantee you she'll be running for the hills to get away from you.
More Cowbell Please
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Asteconn
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Igetit!
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Well what does this girl look like? You say she's gross,but is she really? Or do you just not like her? Because if she's a 6 or a 5 at a minimum,then you know she probably has some afcs after her,but she turns them all down. Therefore,if you pretend to be an afc like all the other guys,then she'll want to distance herself from you too. Is she really gross? Like is she obese,with a face full of acne,bad breath,with teeth missing or something? She can't be that bad.Demystify said:
The suggestion from Asteconn seems pretty good,unless she thinks something is up when you say it.
theunflushables
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
SharinganUser
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Seriously though, don't be mean about it because it could come back to bite you later on.
Like Asteconn said, tell her you see her as a sister and then tell her you aren't ready for anything serious.
Demystify said:
Why are you putting yourself in the position to be hugged or patted every once in a while by her? Why don't you keep yourself busy? Why don't you go where she is not? Why don't you keep busy with sports / reading / school / college? Why don't you volunteer?
You seem to enjoy the attention she is giving you. It's nice to feel wanted, even by a girl who is not good looking, its good for the male ego.
Furyguy
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AmpleReason
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.