What's she doing?

[onemorerobot]

So, I finally got up the nerve to ask for this girl's number. I expected she would give it to me what with all the signs of interest she was giving me. So I wait a few days and then call her on Monday to set up a date on Friday to which she obliges. She comes to see me at work today and we chat for a few minutes before she tells me that I can give her a call if I want when I get off work. I call her and we chat for a minute or two before she asks if I want to hang out. I say "sure" and we meet at the mall. We basically just talked and I watched her eat a sandwich. When it was time to leave she said she had fun and offered her hand to shake, so I shook and then assured her that we could hug. I don't know, it just seemed like that's what she was expecting. Anyway, my question is why did she want to hang out when our date was only a day away?

 

[amoka]

You should have declined the offer to hangout with her. It was a test-to see how manly you are.... how desperate you're to "hang-out" with her. When you call her to confirm your meeting with her this friday, she may not pick-up. She may. When she does, tell her you're like to postpond the date to saturday. In that case, she'll realize you're afterall not that interested in meeting her.....

 

[onemorerobot]

So I'm supposed to lie to her?

 

[Phyzzle]

I disagree with the last guy. You aren't going to call and confirm at all. You're just going to show up. Why would you call her at all?

I mean, if you already have a date set up Friday, what are you calling her for? What would you ask? You already asked her out. She said yes. So go.

 

[onemorerobot]

Well actually I do need to call her. I asked her for directions the other day and she told me to just call her before I pick her up so she can give them to me. She says she's really bad at giving directions.

 

[Aaron B]

Everything is a test. Consciously or not, she is testing you, and you are failing.

You have allowed her to take total control and she is now calling the shots.

Don't call girls to "chat." You aren't her girlfriend. And even worse you called after she told you to. If anyone is going to be calling the shots, it has to be you.

Make her wait for your call. Like David D says "Give her the gift of missing you." You can't do that if you are always available to her.

Keep this up and you are headed straight for the friendszone.

 

[onemorerobot]

Alright, that makes sense. How do I salvage this though? I obviously have to call her tomorrow at some point or I'm not going to be able to find her ****ing house.

 

[Aaron B]

Eh, wait and let her call you.

 

[Phyzzle]

Just go ahead with the plan, then. Don't sweat it. But you could in for some irritation if she doesn't answer her phone.

Sometimes, chicks will say "call me back and we'll see" as an incredably annyong way to say "no." In the future, just set something up and see her then.

 

[zerocelcius]

I think that this one isn't very deep at all fellas! NOT saying it isn't important at all either. BUT what I am saying is I think you two might be young... just a guess (the mall thing) and she just likes you. WOW weird I know.

I think she might be a bit lonely and she likes you and wanted to hang out.

Obviously your old enough to drive, so how old are you and her?

 

[onemorerobot]

She's 19 and I'm 22.

 

[MightyMate]

Yes You should say You were busy.

 

[onemorerobot]

Well, it actually went pretty well tonight. I did get a kiss at the end.