haha, just thought I would remind all of you negative wingers to lighten up a big. Life is fukcing great, take it easy, relax. Have fun with your girls, thats what their there for, not to stress over. Life is beautiful enjoy it everyday.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Whats inside............
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I dont think its girls perse that gets guys stressed over, its what girls represent in their lives.
being loved, respected, feeling wanted, appreciated, worthy, ego boost
Its hard to say to live your life when you dont have those things
kind of like a salesman who stresses over a potential buyer, he doesnt care about the buyer as much as what the buyer can do for him - pay his commission, pay bills, reduce stress, feed himself, etc
think about it, if women didnt bruise our ego's, emotions, make us feel good or bad about ourselves, we would NEXT every girl that came into our lives
most of the fellas on here complaining about girls are really complaining about their shattered ego's and their feelings of low self worth
being loved, respected, feeling wanted, appreciated, worthy, ego boost
Its hard to say to live your life when you dont have those things
kind of like a salesman who stresses over a potential buyer, he doesnt care about the buyer as much as what the buyer can do for him - pay his commission, pay bills, reduce stress, feed himself, etc
think about it, if women didnt bruise our ego's, emotions, make us feel good or bad about ourselves, we would NEXT every girl that came into our lives
most of the fellas on here complaining about girls are really complaining about their shattered ego's and their feelings of low self worth
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that's so true
PuertoRican_Lover
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Clooney and ManoMan, you both make good points!
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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I was feeling this way for the last two weeks...you saw some of the posts that came out of me as a result. Also, as a result, I was taking a LOT more bullsh!t from women in my life.
The last couple days I've really learned to relax with this, remembering that:
-life is temporary, we need to experience as much as possible before we die
-I shouldn't have to change my behavior just because a woman is present, either to impress her or to appear "respectable" and "worthy" in front of my friends.
-A woman seeming worthy to ME is what should be important to me. I should let HER decide if I'm worthy to HER.
-Women are really just one of the fun things in life. They're like toys...they're fun as hell to play with, but they're not worth getting stressed out over when they don't work right or when they give you a hard time. It's easy to set them down and come back to them when you feel up to it, or just get rid of them and buy a new one.
Right on, CLOONEY. Worry about experiencing the fun times in your OWN life and making YOURSELF a better person. The women will appreciate that MORE than you trying to please them. And if they don't, tough luck. Find another one.
ManOMan, yes most guys here are complaining about their own low self worth. But Squirrels has the view I am talking about. I have been through crap with woman, but at the end of the day, its your own perspective on the situation. I am hurt for a couple of days and then am like, WTF, sooooooo many other beautiful opportunities out there, who cares about her. U just gotta take it lightly and most importantly worry about YOU, what you are doing, if you really even like her, not what she thinks about you, or what she is doing blah blah blah. Just have fun with it and make sure YOU are enjoying yourself. That way you can take everything as it comes and just have a fukcing stellar life. Its just about changing your OWN mindset. Most guys on these boards need to learn how to do this.................