"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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What's in a name and how did you end up here?

Kailex

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Kailex is a sign-on name I've used forever on different forums and different online games and pretty much anywhere as a moniker.

Have always loved the name Kai... added the -lex and went with it.


My signature is something I've lived by for years.
If a woman was cheating on her b/f with me, I knew better than to try to make her into an LTR.


I came to this site because of a relationship I let slide because I was an UBER, UBER AFC. She wanted to come back to my place and I brought her, got her undressed and then slept beside her without doing anything because I wanted to prove that I wasn't like all of those other guys who just wanted her for sex... I wanted to prove that I respected her. Unsurprisingly, she never went out with me again.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Huffman

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OK it's Huffman, but I cannot tell you the reason - it's a big secret :)

How I got here? I heard somebody talking about a "b itch shield" and thought the idea was funny. I searched for it on google and you can guess where I ended up...
 

Powerlifter

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My screen name is misleading and should be Filmmaker.

I picked Powerlifter because I like strength training lifts like Bench, Deadlifts, Squats, and one that is not a Powerlifting excercise Power Cleans.

Some might have this image of a pot bellied powerlifter but not even close.

I wish I could change it to Filmmaker. I am currently executive producer of an independent film being made in the Chicago area of which I finance movies as an investment.

Powerlifter
 

Alle_Gory

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I used allegory as my username but split it in two because my first name starts with A and my last name starts with G.

An allegory is a "subject that represents an underlying idea or an abstract quality". Which pretty much describes what I write.
 

Julius_Seizeher

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I bear this moniker because I admire the insane ambition, risk taking, assumption of power, and legendary womanizing of Caesar. There has been none greater, he named two months after himself 2,000 years ago and we still honor him today.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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jafyk

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Bible_Belt said:
I was dating a churchy girl and thinking to myself that dating was a little different in the midwestern bible belt.

And if you make ten posts in a day on sosuave, then...
Then what? I post too much no sosuave for me? Lol, man that just sucks. I remember having something I wanted to say so badly and then I had reached my 10 posts, grrrrrrrrr!
 

jafyk

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Julius_Seizeher said:
I bear this moniker because I admire the insane ambition, risk taking, assumption of power, and legendary womanizing of Caesar. There has been none greater, he named two months after himself 2,000 years ago and we still honor him today.

Your name is of the few that I like "Seize her" Lol, well Alexander my friend the world is yours take it or should I say seize her.

Allegory is cool too. So, what are you an allegory of? The troubled men who found their way to sosuave? Lol. Just kidding my man.
 
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