"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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What's in a name and how did you end up here?

jafyk

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Hi, when I read through the posts here on sosuave. I see all sorts of interesting names and often wonder what they mean. So, I'ill like to use this thread to share the meanings behind our names and what brought us to Sosuave discussion forum. Talk about your signature quotes too.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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5string

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5string....because I play banjo. How did I get here.....researching medical issues. Signature.....it's from the movie Full Metal Jacket. It seemed appropriate in that so many guys on here ignore the advice and information they are given, and do just the opposite (I am guilt to a degree).
 

jafyk

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Mine is J.A.F.Y.K. it's an abbreviation for Just Another Face You Know.I know it's ironic considering most of us here haven't seen each other's faces. Anyway, I came up with the name because I think it fits considering most of us here are strangers to each other and would probably walk past each other in the real world and not even know we've been in the same forum and commented on each other's posts.
I came across sosuave when my kid brother suggested it to me. I don't know what he was doing on Sosuave at the time but I'd like to say that him pointing me to this site is one of the best things he'd done for me. I had generally been confused about women (I won't claim to have them all figured out nor do I think I really want if it's even totally possible) and dating. I started reading the articles on the main Sosuave site and when you read articles you often have questions. I would've been here longer if I knew what the discussion forum was all about earlier on my time on SS. So, i discover that you can actually come here , read people's posts, ask your own questions, get answers and respond to other people's comments as well, which is really cool. My dating life or life in general is not where I'd like it to be but I know I've made a lot progress and know a lot more than I did. Still there are conflicting informations but then I realize it's up to each of us to decide what works in general and what works for us as individuals. I want to thank those who have responded to my posts in the past as well as the ones who have made the biggest impression on me especially ROLLO. Anyway, this is my story. I'd like to read yours.
 

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warrior 74 =Going to war with the world since I was born.

I was on Player Supreme's forum, he used to call SS the funny pages because of how lame the posts are and the lack of understanding of real game. So I'd come here to check out the lames and laugh at them. I posted a few replies and actually helped a few people. Which was pretty cool. I figured it was better to help people than to laugh at their misfortune.
 

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Warrior74 said:
warrior 74 =Going to war with the world since I was born.

I was on Player Supreme's forum, he used to call SS the funny pages because of how lame the posts are and the lack of understanding of real game. So I'd come here to check out the lames and laugh at them. I posted a few replies and actually helped a few people. Which was pretty cool. I figured it was better to help people than to laugh at their misfortune.
I see, cool.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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my name is backbreaker because i break backs nigga. no seriously i wish i could change my name iw ould have done so a long time ago, i don't care for it.

her name was katherina-marie

i'm quite bored and found some old picks of "her"

enjoy



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ironically this night at this point i actually was well out the oneitis stage and we were sexing quite reguarlly, and at this point i was really all that interested in dating her. we were going out later that night and she wanted me to chose what i wanted her to wear out.
 
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horaholic

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Im addicted to hor's, obviously, and would like to change that. A hor brought me here. Any more questions?
 

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Im ease because this **** is easy.

A psycho ex drove me here.
 

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horaholic said:
Im addicted to hor's, obviously, and would like to change that. A hor brought me here. Any more questions?
What did she do to you to make you come to SS? I would like to hear about it.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Quiksilver

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Found this place after I got stood up on a first date in highschool. Oh how long ago that was.
 

jafyk

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So far so good guys but can we step it up a lil bit. Give us actual stories (perhaps quarter of a page worth) That helps us to get to know one another and know where you are coming from. Anyone can easily say " a girl brought me here" Well, duh!
 

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Go rent 'L.A. Confidential' and you'll get it.
 

DavenJuan

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Rollo Tomassi said:
Go rent 'L.A. Confidential' and you'll get it.
I always thought it was after the band :rockon:

My name is pretty simple. my first name and "juan". I changed it to Daven Tenorio on other forums I use to frequent, which essentially means the same thing, but sounds better.

I found this site back in 2003. Was recently out of a LTR, yet still sleeping together, and trying to juggle the club scene. Couldnt figure out why the "nice guy" thing wasnt getting me anywhere.
 

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I came here because a friend linked it to me as i told him about all my problems with my oneitis, and I just read and read because i was amazed at how little i knew.

I first tried the name Captain because i wanted to have a tough badass sounding name to mark myself as a changing man, but that was taken so i settled for CaptainJ because of jack sparrow lol.

I don't understand people who give themselves sh1tty self deprecating names, as you are just reminding yourself of how sh1t you are, whereas a name like warrior fires the blood and gets you motivated.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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jafyk

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Rollo Tomassi said:
Go rent 'L.A. Confidential' and you'll get it.

Thanks for the reminder. That's a movie I've been wanting to rent and watch but everytime I go to rent a movie I end up forgetting and renting something else.
So, Don Tomassi does L.A. Confidential also tell us how you ended up on this site or are you one of the founders?
 

jafyk

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CaptainJ said:
I came here because a friend linked it to me as i told him about all my problems with my oneitis, and I just read and read because i was amazed at how little i knew.

I first tried the name Captain because i wanted to have a tough badass sounding name to mark myself as a changing man, but that was taken so i settled for CaptainJ because of jack sparrow lol.

I don't understand people who give themselves sh1tty self deprecating names, as you are just reminding yourself of how sh1t you are, whereas a name like warrior fires the blood and gets you motivated.

I know what you mean. When I first came across this site too. I was just taken I'd read stuff, print it take it home and read some more. Is there a Sosuave anonymous? lol. Oh, this is it, isn't it? lol

So, why was the man squatting in the curl thing? I think he was pondering what "I need space means"
 

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5string said:
What did she do to you to make you come to SS? I would like to hear about it.
Check the BPD threads
 

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jafyk said:
So, why was the man squatting in the curl thing? I think he was pondering what "I need space means"
The sig is just a joke about people who curl in the squat rack and how they must view people who actually use the squat rack to squat
 

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I was dating a churchy girl and thinking to myself that dating was a little different in the midwestern bible belt.

And if you make ten posts in a day on sosuave, then...
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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