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My fellow men, I need to help. I've been on a 4 month dry streak and it's getting tough.

I just started 2 community college classes, I've been talking to 1 women in each class but so far ground level. When I worked at job, mating was slightly easier.

Now, since I left high school (I've been in college for about 2 1/2 years now) and THIS **** IS ROUGH.

I need help. I dont know whats happening! Any advice? Am I being too passive?

Girls don't approach me as they used to. No choosing signals...this is the worst time of my life.
 

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Bump. If you're a 21 year old in 2 classes, what would you do!?

I self improved sooo much I feel like if i can continue I may be depressed, it feels like coping at this point. I stopped smoking, drinking, porn. Cmon....something!?
 

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First of all, at your age, you gotta 100% feel yourself.. When I started college, and yes, I also went to a community college, though a pretty big one.. I was walking around that sh.t like i was the man.. I was one of the cool kids, that talked to like every girl, had a group of friends we'd just be like roaming the halls between classes or after our classes were over, talking to girls and just hanging out and clownin around.

The amount of girls i f-ed in that school.. cant even count probably 13-14 diff girls in the 2 years i was there. had boyfriends crying and **** adn all that because their girl was unfaithful and sht.

I was an anomaly though man.. Girls/dudes would ask me sht like if i was f-ing the professor because i'd have these like sexually tense back and forths with the professor at timesor like talk to them like we're close friends.. mostly because i didnt see them as my superior.. like all these kids did..

it all bows down to Confidence and nothing else.. yes, im not bad looking, but im also not a chad. im 5'10, about 170 lbs.. def not a buff or big guy by any means.. but my confidence in that schoool was 2nd to none.. part of it had to do with the fact that i spent my entire teens partying and living like a king.. i was 25 when i started college so ic ame in like super experienced.. more experienced in life than i feel any of those kids..
 

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If I was in any college rn, I'd clean up like it was nothing. I was so naive back then. The good thing about college is that there's little competition save from the athletic team, which I was already part of in college anyway. So I would essentially be playing on easy mode. Lots of thirsty young girls who want to live out the sex life.
 

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Do you have some game? Are you attractive? Are you approaching? Do you know what you attract? Give more context so we can give you advice.

My fellow men, I need to help. I've been on a 4 month dry streak and it's getting tough.
I need help. I dont know whats happening! Any advice? Am I being too passive?
Girls don't approach me as they used to. No choosing signals...this is the worst time of my life.
You need to approach, only the best looking men that are warm and receptive will get approached and it is rare. If you aren't initiating and approaching you are being passive. My nickname from the head of my department at my community college was Romeo. It was because I was always talking to chicks whenever and wherever. Once a few saw me talking to others the rest followed suit. I had an abundance of women coming on to me, but only because I initiated it to being with. Once the door opened it was done.

I was dumb though and at 21 went after the prettiest girl I could find. Ended up dating her and she was full blown BPD suicidal psycho who messed me up and made miss out. lesson learned.

@RazorRambo24 advice is sound. Be in your frame and give less of a **** about outcomes and just talk to girls man. Community college is a mixed bag of ages, but there are plenty of young chicks new to the game. Easy mode.
 

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Hollywood has given us a false impression that college is a pvssy paradise for the average guy. This is far from the truth unless you are seen as a top 10% guy from the women at your college or university due to hypergamy. Add in OLD and social media and you are now competing against older guys with money and more established lives. I have dated 5 women and my current gf is the first girl that's not in college currently lol. Although this being true, college is still the best time for the average guy to get laid due to logistics and culture alone. However, if a guy puts in the work with himself, you will make up for your lack of college success after you graduate. You do not have much control over your SMV hierarchy in college, but you will after you graduate.

In summary, focus on your grades and major kid. You will get a few scoundrels here and there, but they aren't worth it right now.
 

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I just started 2 community college classes, I've been talking to 1 women in each class but so far ground level.

Girls don't approach me as they used to. No choosing signals...this is the worst time of my life.
Bump. If you're a 21 year old in 2 classes, what would you do!?

I self improved sooo much I feel like if i can continue I may be depressed, it feels like coping at this point. I stopped smoking, drinking, porn. Cmon....something!?
First off, congratulations on no smoking, drinking, or porn. You're doing the right thing. Keep it going! Make sure to do no masturbation alongside no porn.

At either a private college/public university or a community college, choosing signals are tough to get. I remember when I was in college, I was frustrated because I wasn't getting enough choosing signals. I also went to college in a simpler era (2001-2005). In 2001-2005, online dating was a few websites that older people mainly used and social media was in its infancy at the end of my college time. Still, even with fewer competing factors, I found that as I walked past women on campus, few made strong eye contact and smiled at me.

You're likely going to need to do more approaches. Approach women in your classes and walking around campus. You're still early in the new semester.

Does your community college have extracurricular activities? Get involved in those and do approaches through those.

There is a thread about all topics college sex below. The thread has value, even though it is more focused on larger public universities and their mating scenes as compared to the community college mating scene.


Hollywood has given us a false impression that college is a pvssy paradise for the average guy. This is far from the truth unless you are seen as a top 10% guy from the women at your college or university due to hypergamy. Add in OLD and social media and you are now competing against older guys with money and more established lives.
When I was a junior and senior in high school, I had this impression that college was going to be a "pusssy paradise" for me. It wasn't. It wasn't even close to a pusssy paradise. I didn't do many things that might have helped my pusssy experience while on campus, but even if I did all of the best things, I still would have felt a bit of disappointment. I had unrealistic expectations of the pusssy environment in college going into my application and selection process.

Even in 2001-2005, before swipe apps and social media were a thing, you'd have to be a Top 10% guy to get attention then. Women at my college were more focused on the NCAA athletes and ex-high school athletes who had top tier looks to notice the vast majority of men.

college is still the best time for the average guy to get laid due to logistics and culture alone.
I agree. When you're a college student, everyone around you is unmarried and almost no one has kids. While some people form exclusive relationships while in college and that affects the mating options, it's still way easier because the single moms and the marrieds are removed from the market. It is easier than the general marketplace. Additionally, it's way easier to pursue romantic interactions in classes/campus activities than it would be in a white collar workplace (#MeToo, HR feminists) or a blue collar workplace (lacking females entirely). If a romantic interaction goes bad in a 200 level class, the class ends at the end of the semester. In a workplace, if a romantic interaction goes bad at any point, someone might hear from HR or need to find a new job. College has a huge advantage with that.

College nightlife can consist of Greek Life parties (for Greek Life members), random parties at well known party apartment complexes, or bars that are mostly college students. The general populace doesn't have those same options and the general populace is dealing with more stuff like marrieds, single moms, older people with more baggage, etc.

College daygame on campus is easier than daygaming in the general populace.

if a guy puts in the work with himself, you will make up for your lack of college success after you graduate. You do not have much control over your SMV hierarchy in college, but you will after you graduate.

In summary, focus on your grades and major kid. You will get a few scoundrels here and there, but they aren't worth it right now.
Relationships fail. The women from college will soon be a part of the past.

For men that graduate college with a girlfriend, it is likely that the college-formed relationship will end within 3-5 years of graduation. At some point, a man finds himself in his mid to late 20s with no girlfriend and the need to find a new girlfriend or new plates. If you're a man who is 23-27 and recently single after your college romance goes bad, how are you going to adjust to this new reality?

Men who end college without a steady girlfriend immediately enter the general populace dating market if they don't have any social circle options. That can be a rude awakening.

Men who have a strong foundation for their SMV can cope better with the adjustment to the general dating populace. Sooner or later, almost all men who graduate college will need to face the post-college dating environment. It's quite rare to get married to your college sweetheart in your 20s, have kids with her somewhere in your late 20s/mid 30s, and have that relationship last forever. Even men who beat the 3-5 years failure odds and get married often get divorced from their college sweethearts between ages 35-44. Try being 40 years old and not having dated since age 20. Usually, that 40 year old guy also has kids from his ex. That's a tough situation too. It's easier in a way to be a childless 25 year old with a failed relationship with the college sweetheart than a divorced 40 year old guy with kids with a failed marriage from the college sweetheart.
 

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Community college means commuting to college. It’s not as ideal as say living at a 4-year university.

But you have to work with what you have. Get to class early so you have time to chat with classmates. Any club or extracurricular activity that interests you can help too.

Anyway, SW covered it in much more detail above.
 

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Community college means commuting to college. It’s not as ideal as say living at a 4-year university.

But you have to work with what you have. Get to class early so you have time to chat with classmates. Any club or extracurricular activity that interests you can help too.
At a private college or a 4 year public university, a lot of students don't live on campus. Many students live on campus for 1-2 years, then rent off campus apartments.

There are some upsides to community college girls though.

Getting to class early to chat is a good suggestion.
 

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Community college is not much different than going to work. You need to network, involve yourself and organize happy hours or parties. Host a party if you can. Get some guys to throw some money together and rent an elks lodge. Super cheap. Could even charge at the door and make your money back. Throw a fvcking rager
 

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Took a few posts to mention that OP is going to community college and how that is a pretty big deal. Community colleges are full of people that want to GTFO, same with commuter campuses. No one is there for the "college experience". Most of the times it is single moms, people with families, and kids who messed up in high school so they are trying to improve their grades there and transfer in to an actual university. Some people take classes they have to take so they can move on with their career.

In other words, you should be spending time in community college getting your $hit together rather than chasing poon. Improve your grades and transfer to a big university but at the age of 21, I think you might be a bit too far along.

What are you even in college for? If you want a Bachelors, then get good grades and transfer to a big state school for your final 2 years.

When you do arrive at the big state school, do not rush a fraternity or bother with Greek Life. Find out where the party scene is and get a job there. Go for either bartender or any job at a bar at the university you end up at. You will be involved in the party scene and meet cool girls that way.

If not that and you are only in for an associates, you can still do the above and move to a college town for a bartending gig but it might be a lot depending on what you are going for.
 

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Took a few posts to mention that OP is going to community college and how that is a pretty big deal. Community colleges are full of people that want to GTFO, same with commuter campuses. No one is there for the "college experience". Most of the times it is single moms, people with families, and kids who messed up in high school so they are trying to improve their grades there and transfer in to an actual university. Some people take classes they have to take so they can move on with their career.

In other words, you should be spending time in community college getting your $hit together rather than chasing poon. Improve your grades and transfer to a big university but at the age of 21, I think you might be a bit too far along.

What are you even in college for? If you want a Bachelors, then get good grades and transfer to a big state school for your final 2 years.
Yea...you nailed it on the head. Its kinda sad but your right about why people even go to community colleges in the first place. The scene is mostly dry. I'd just follow your advice/outlook on day/night game to get some girls tbh. But not count out the females in this school of course...

I'm going to school for Nursing, and I wont be going to be a typical 4 year university either. Probably just find a girlfriend and settle down...or maybe do some downtown night life post degree if single.
 

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OP is going to community college and how that is a pretty big deal. Community colleges are full of people that want to GTFO, same with commuter campuses. No one is there for the "college experience". Most of the times it is single moms, people with families, and kids who messed up in high school so they are trying to improve their grades there and transfer in to an actual university. Some people take classes they have to take so they can move on with their career.

In other words, you should be spending time in community college getting your $hit together rather than chasing poon. Improve your grades and transfer to a big university but at the age of 21, I think you might be a bit too far along.
Yea...you nailed it on the head. Its kinda sad but your right about why people even go to community colleges in the first place. The scene is mostly dry. I'd just follow your advice/outlook on day/night game to get some girls tbh. But not count out the females in this school of course...
It doesn't seem like the pickup scene is good at community colleges. I went to a 4 year university during my typical college age time. I thought there might be some decent women training for careers that don't require a 4 year degree at community college, such as dental hygienist, paralegal, or medical assistant/some nursing. A lot of these community college type women would be less careerist than 4 year university women in a lot of cases. Yes, I am aware that the quality of nurses as girlfriend/wife material has gone downhill since the Millennial generation came of age in the 2000s.


I'm going to school for Nursing, and I wont be going to be a typical 4 year university either. Probably just find a girlfriend and settle down...or maybe do some downtown night life post degree if single.
Nursing is a solid career choice though male nurses are not very common. Nursing is nearly recession proof, which is great. A lot of men in business-related careers are often concerned about layoffs and recessions. Some business disciplines are more layoff prone than others. It's a lousy way to go through life if you're in a line of work that is susceptible to layoffs.

As a male nurse, you could play social circle game very well. You'll have a ton of female nurse co-workers and they'll have friends you can date.
 
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