"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

Read more...

what's going on??

3

32swf

Don Juan
Joined
Apr 1, 2003
Messages
90
Reaction score
0
Location
Virginia
I've been dating a great guy for about a month now. Conversation is great, we seem to click pretty well, and we've done a lot of fun things, like pool, dinner, movies, etc.
We joke around and both seem to feel comfortable around each other. there's only one problem...he doesn't seem to want sex!

we've messed around naked in the bed for hours, then he gets dressed and goes home. We did try once last week, but he went soft when he tried to put the condom on. So I haven't pushed the issue in case he's feeling sensitive about it, but I want to know what's going on!! do I bring it up or just wait it out?

he did tell me he went out with a girl for 2 years and never had actual intercourse with her because he wanted to keep it casual bc she was alot younger than he was. I'm 32 and he's 30 and I want some booty!!!!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

Read more...

T

Tango-Kid

Don Juan
Joined
Jan 17, 2004
Messages
105
Reaction score
0
He might be afraid. In my opinion you have two choices:

1) Make him relaxed, and talk to him. Give him massage and a bj, maybe you can reveal his sexual energy.

2) Leave him.

But don´t let this go on too long! It would be bad for the both of you.

Tango-Kid
 
M

ManOMan

Master Don Juan
Joined
Aug 23, 2003
Messages
504
Reaction score
2
" he did tell me he went out with a girl for 2 years and never had actual intercourse with her because he wanted to keep it casual bc she was alot younger than he was."


How do you go out with a girl for 2 years, and all the while thinking "she is too young lets keep it casual" for 2 YEARS??

This guy is either closet gay or has some mommy/daddy sex problems (usually from strict catholic upbringing)

maybe he isnt in to you, or is he on any medications?
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

Read more...

G

Genghis Juan

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jul 13, 2003
Messages
355
Reaction score
2
Location
Boston, MA
That's wacked. No normal guy stops just short when getting hot and heavy. I would guess:

1. he is gay and hasn't come to terms with it yet.
2. he has some major psychological issues
3. he is playing some major mind game on you by getting you hot and heavy, then leaving you stranded, to make you crazy.

Either way, it doesn't look good for you girl. :confused:
 
P

Pro

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 28, 2001
Messages
707
Reaction score
1
You left out all the freaky sh1t you did to him before the bang-bang, so I can't really give ya an opinion. Are you guys clicking on the real or do things seem forced?

And I would add he does seem queerer than a football bat, who is going to say they were in some relationship with a girl too young so no sex was involved. YEAH RIGHT! I mean was the girl eight? Teens and above love to jump all over the **** and if they are dating a dude they are gonna be playin bump bump real quick.
 
T

Trance

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jan 23, 2004
Messages
590
Reaction score
0
Age
45
Location
Portugal
Dress some sexy stuff, and go to bed with him. Then whisper in his ear something like "I want you tonight", or "**** me" and proceed undressing and making preliminaries.. If he doesnt bang you, than he's gay.
No man can resist that kind of situation with a girl. If he does, either he's gay, or he has some major psicological problems.
 
K

Kineti[C]harm

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 16, 2003
Messages
1,520
Reaction score
2
Foreplay it better!!! Make him COMFORTABLE with you and him sexually! massage, ******* whatever!
 
Dust 2 Dust

Dust 2 Dust

Master Don Juan
Joined
Dec 25, 2002
Messages
2,163
Reaction score
679
Location
Florida
Hey 32swf,

Is this the same AFC you were complaining about in a previous thread?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

3

32swf

Don Juan
Joined
Apr 1, 2003
Messages
90
Reaction score
0
Location
Virginia
new afc

no, this is an entirely new one! :D

He's very sexual and sensual, which makes this more strange. He seems very attracted to me, and is very tactile. He enjoys the Bjs and seems very comfortable and relaxed when we're together.

I've just never laid in bed naked with a naked guy with nothing happening. Foreplay isn't a problem. that's just all there is! :mad:

but, then again, I wouldn't like it if he was jumping my bones every 10 seconds either, because then I'd think all he wanted was sex..... so he can't really win in this situation.
This way at least, I know that he enjoys spending time with me.

I'll give it a little while longer, and then maybe I'll bring it up.
 
H

Howie Farkes

Don Juan
Joined
Apr 19, 2003
Messages
178
Reaction score
0
Sounds a bit like performance anxiety to me. When it comes time to do the deed it's "hello Mr Floppy!". For whatever reason he's maybe putting too much pressure on himself to be amazing in bed. And when you're tense or stressed it's uncanny how fast an erection can disappear.

So next time you're naked together in bed and you feel like fvcking I suggest putting a blindfold on him - take the pressure off - tell him to lay back and that you're gonna pleasure him - that he has to do nothing. Get him good and excited in your usual way. HJ or BJ or whatever. Then when he's not expecting it (and can't see it coming 'cause he's blindfolded) mount him and fvck him like crazy.

Performance anxiety can sometimes be turned off like a lightswitch. Once the guy KNOWS he CAN fvck - then... well he'll be able to fvck.
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
22 Rules for Massive Success With Women
Top