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Master Don Juan
i didn't read the game or wahtever
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
whats DHV?
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Demonstration of higher value.
"My ex-girlfriend just picked me up at the airport tonight, and instead of her Audi she was driving a Maserati all of a sudden. It was too funny -- I tried to pretend that I didn't notice, and then like 100 yards outside the airport, we get pulled over. She didn't tell me until afterwards that they'd just given her the car for a photo shoot she was doing, so when the cop lights came on, I was totally wondering what was up. Finally, I whispered to her: "Karen, if in the last three days you'd become a drug baron and were on the FBI hit list, you'd tell me right?" Anyway, even when it turns out we just had a broken headlight."
Tells them:
He has an ex-girlfriend. He's not a total loser.
He is close enough to his ex-girlfriend that she would pick him up at the airport.
He has a lifestyle where he travels (he's coming from the airport).
His ex-girlfriend has an Audi. This doesn't necessarily give her a ton of value, but it gives her a little bit. Which gives you a bit of value by implication.
His ex-girlfriend does photo shoots. She must be attractive.
His ex-girlfriend does the kind of photo shoots where they'd give her a Maserati for the day as part of it. She must be very attractive.
It's like working out and dressing good. But better. Always DHV. Sales people DHV, politicians DHV, every body successful does it. People then qualify to you, want to please you, and you get your way.
Also important. Treating other people like they are higher value helps, as equals among you. Treating them as lower value, or with disrespect, is DLVing, and works against you. This is different from negging, because here you showing low value by thinking the other person is stupid and treating them with disrespect. It's like naming calling, shows you're immature. Negging is rather "negging while DHVing".
"My ex-girlfriend just picked me up at the airport tonight, and instead of her Audi she was driving a Maserati all of a sudden. It was too funny -- I tried to pretend that I didn't notice, and then like 100 yards outside the airport, we get pulled over. She didn't tell me until afterwards that they'd just given her the car for a photo shoot she was doing, so when the cop lights came on, I was totally wondering what was up. Finally, I whispered to her: "Karen, if in the last three days you'd become a drug baron and were on the FBI hit list, you'd tell me right?" Anyway, even when it turns out we just had a broken headlight."
Tells them:
He has an ex-girlfriend. He's not a total loser.
He is close enough to his ex-girlfriend that she would pick him up at the airport.
He has a lifestyle where he travels (he's coming from the airport).
His ex-girlfriend has an Audi. This doesn't necessarily give her a ton of value, but it gives her a little bit. Which gives you a bit of value by implication.
His ex-girlfriend does photo shoots. She must be attractive.
His ex-girlfriend does the kind of photo shoots where they'd give her a Maserati for the day as part of it. She must be very attractive.
It's like working out and dressing good. But better. Always DHV. Sales people DHV, politicians DHV, every body successful does it. People then qualify to you, want to please you, and you get your way.
Also important. Treating other people like they are higher value helps, as equals among you. Treating them as lower value, or with disrespect, is DLVing, and works against you. This is different from negging, because here you showing low value by thinking the other person is stupid and treating them with disrespect. It's like naming calling, shows you're immature. Negging is rather "negging while DHVing".
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Master Don Juan
nice. okay thanks
nicenomore
Senior Don Juan
DHV is to show an yourself as an exception from other guys...
shows you're playful and interesting...
shows you're playful and interesting...
comic_relief
Master Don Juan
exactly, I tell stories about my life, but I'm actually DHV'ing. It's my secret weapon, and I find that story to be more of a showoff than anything else.
It's how I make friends and how I got my girlfriend.
It is my "secret weapon."
comic_relief
It's how I make friends and how I got my girlfriend.
It is my "secret weapon."
comic_relief
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Once you put other people down, it's not DHV anymore. It's a defense mechanism.
DHV:
exactly, I tell stories about my life, but I'm actually DHV'ing. It's my secret weapon,
DEFENSE MECHANISM:
exactly, I tell stories about my life, but I'm actually DHV'ing. It's my secret weapon, and I find that story to be more of a showoff than anything else.
As well, this particular thread is a defense mechanism. In case of DHV I wouldn't respond at all.
DHV:
exactly, I tell stories about my life, but I'm actually DHV'ing. It's my secret weapon,
DEFENSE MECHANISM:
exactly, I tell stories about my life, but I'm actually DHV'ing. It's my secret weapon, and I find that story to be more of a showoff than anything else.
As well, this particular thread is a defense mechanism. In case of DHV I wouldn't respond at all.
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I was hoping there was an insightful DJ in training somewhere in there.Stuntmann said:
Good job. Carry on.