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Master Don Juan
i didn't read the game or wahtever
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
whats DHV?
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Demonstration of higher value.
"My ex-girlfriend just picked me up at the airport tonight, and instead of her Audi she was driving a Maserati all of a sudden. It was too funny -- I tried to pretend that I didn't notice, and then like 100 yards outside the airport, we get pulled over. She didn't tell me until afterwards that they'd just given her the car for a photo shoot she was doing, so when the cop lights came on, I was totally wondering what was up. Finally, I whispered to her: "Karen, if in the last three days you'd become a drug baron and were on the FBI hit list, you'd tell me right?" Anyway, even when it turns out we just had a broken headlight."
Tells them:
He has an ex-girlfriend. He's not a total loser.
He is close enough to his ex-girlfriend that she would pick him up at the airport.
He has a lifestyle where he travels (he's coming from the airport).
His ex-girlfriend has an Audi. This doesn't necessarily give her a ton of value, but it gives her a little bit. Which gives you a bit of value by implication.
His ex-girlfriend does photo shoots. She must be attractive.
His ex-girlfriend does the kind of photo shoots where they'd give her a Maserati for the day as part of it. She must be very attractive.
It's like working out and dressing good. But better. Always DHV. Sales people DHV, politicians DHV, every body successful does it. People then qualify to you, want to please you, and you get your way.
Also important. Treating other people like they are higher value helps, as equals among you. Treating them as lower value, or with disrespect, is DLVing, and works against you. This is different from negging, because here you showing low value by thinking the other person is stupid and treating them with disrespect. It's like naming calling, shows you're immature. Negging is rather "negging while DHVing".
"My ex-girlfriend just picked me up at the airport tonight, and instead of her Audi she was driving a Maserati all of a sudden. It was too funny -- I tried to pretend that I didn't notice, and then like 100 yards outside the airport, we get pulled over. She didn't tell me until afterwards that they'd just given her the car for a photo shoot she was doing, so when the cop lights came on, I was totally wondering what was up. Finally, I whispered to her: "Karen, if in the last three days you'd become a drug baron and were on the FBI hit list, you'd tell me right?" Anyway, even when it turns out we just had a broken headlight."
Tells them:
He has an ex-girlfriend. He's not a total loser.
He is close enough to his ex-girlfriend that she would pick him up at the airport.
He has a lifestyle where he travels (he's coming from the airport).
His ex-girlfriend has an Audi. This doesn't necessarily give her a ton of value, but it gives her a little bit. Which gives you a bit of value by implication.
His ex-girlfriend does photo shoots. She must be attractive.
His ex-girlfriend does the kind of photo shoots where they'd give her a Maserati for the day as part of it. She must be very attractive.
It's like working out and dressing good. But better. Always DHV. Sales people DHV, politicians DHV, every body successful does it. People then qualify to you, want to please you, and you get your way.
Also important. Treating other people like they are higher value helps, as equals among you. Treating them as lower value, or with disrespect, is DLVing, and works against you. This is different from negging, because here you showing low value by thinking the other person is stupid and treating them with disrespect. It's like naming calling, shows you're immature. Negging is rather "negging while DHVing".
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Master Don Juan
nice. okay thanks
nicenomore
Senior Don Juan
DHV is to show an yourself as an exception from other guys...
shows you're playful and interesting...
shows you're playful and interesting...
comic_relief
Master Don Juan
exactly, I tell stories about my life, but I'm actually DHV'ing. It's my secret weapon, and I find that story to be more of a showoff than anything else.
It's how I make friends and how I got my girlfriend.
It is my "secret weapon."
comic_relief
It's how I make friends and how I got my girlfriend.
It is my "secret weapon."
comic_relief
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Once you put other people down, it's not DHV anymore. It's a defense mechanism.
DHV:
exactly, I tell stories about my life, but I'm actually DHV'ing. It's my secret weapon,
DEFENSE MECHANISM:
exactly, I tell stories about my life, but I'm actually DHV'ing. It's my secret weapon, and I find that story to be more of a showoff than anything else.
As well, this particular thread is a defense mechanism. In case of DHV I wouldn't respond at all.
DHV:
exactly, I tell stories about my life, but I'm actually DHV'ing. It's my secret weapon,
DEFENSE MECHANISM:
exactly, I tell stories about my life, but I'm actually DHV'ing. It's my secret weapon, and I find that story to be more of a showoff than anything else.
As well, this particular thread is a defense mechanism. In case of DHV I wouldn't respond at all.
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I was hoping there was an insightful DJ in training somewhere in there.Stuntmann said:
Good job. Carry on.