What's a good response to this during cold approaches?

[Oatmeal31]

I often this response after I pitch a date and what not.
(With a smile) "I don't think my boyfriend/partner would like that"

I usually just take it as a soft rejection, wish em well, and walk away.

One time I went up to a blonde walking her dog, she said she didn't think boyfriend would like that, and I pointed at her dog and said, I think he would! Sounds corny but worth a shot. I heard of "boyfriend destroyer lines." Is that what they're like?
She smiled and walked away, so it was just a plain soft rejection.

Any thoughts because I've heard the boyfriend line a million times by now but they typically say this variation of it after she hears me out, laughing and smiling, without blowing me out right away

 

[PlatoPacks23]

Worth a shot? If she has a boyfriend (or is saying she does) she is not interested. This is wasted mental space when you could be focused on other things.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

"He doesn't have to come, we're only going as friends" (as you exude a sexual vibe and maintain eye contact a tad bit longer than appropriate)

 

[SW15]

I often this response after I pitch a date and what not.
(With a smile) "I don't think my boyfriend/partner would like that"

I usually just take it as a soft rejection, wish em well, and walk away.

One time I went up to a blonde walking her dog, she said she didn't think boyfriend would like that, and I pointed at her dog and said, I think he would! Sounds corny but worth a shot. I heard of "boyfriend destroyer lines." Is that what they're like?
She smiled and walked away, so it was just a plain soft rejection.

Any thoughts because I've heard the boyfriend line a million times by now but they typically say this variation of it after she hears me out, laughing and smiling, without blowing me out right away

There are 2 ways to handle the boyfriend objection.

1. Pretend it actually didn't happen. If her body language is good enough, it means it's just a crap test. This is an infield display of how to ignore the boyfriend in field. However, the male in this ended up flaking on the interaction after collecting her contact info.

2. Use "boyfriend destroyer lines". This is a tactic I wish I knew earlier in life. I got more commonly IHAB'ed in the 2000s. In the 2000s, I had better access to females because I was on a college campus in the earlier part of the decade (2001-2005). My IHABs were most common around that time. By the time I learned boyfriend destroyer lines circa 2010, I was hearing them far less enough.

Most women with boyfriends won't engage in extended conversations with males. I try to extend out conversations and gauge interest level before asking a woman for a date.

I highly recommend using boyfriend destroyer lines in the majority of situations.

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However, there are less common examples where I still may hear about a boyfriend, who might be fictional. This story below is what I seem to recall as my most recent IHAB.

I got IHAB'ed once in the 2020s by some Gen Z female who referred to her boyfriend as a "partner". It was so ridiculous.

I played that one straight up and told her that her offer to go out with me as friends was unacceptable.

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The only reason that I didn't use a boyfriend destroyer line on her is because she worked in my primary gym. I didn't want her making an issue out of it.

 

[CoolWave1331]

If I suggest any sort of get together and I hear the "B" word I'm out of there. I assume not interested, tell her thanks and take care.

I don't know what boyfriend destroy is but I'm guessing it's like clever comeback if she mentions a boyfriend. Couple of times in the past I've said something like (in regards to having a boyfriend) "So what I'm not asking him out, i'm asking you out" etc. Sometimes she laughed, sometimes roll eyes, either way did not change outcome.

From experience a mention of a boyfriend means not interested. A lot of times when girl cheat with new person they never mention having boyfriend. Boyfriend is a bad word unless you are the boyfriend.

 

[MachinePT]

I often this response after I pitch a date and what not.
(With a smile) "I don't think my boyfriend/partner would like that"

I usually just take it as a soft rejection, wish em well, and walk away.

One time I went up to a blonde walking her dog, she said she didn't think boyfriend would like that, and I pointed at her dog and said, I think he would! Sounds corny but worth a shot. I heard of "boyfriend destroyer lines." Is that what they're like?
She smiled and walked away, so it was just a plain soft rejection.

Any thoughts because I've heard the boyfriend line a million times by now but they typically say this variation of it after she hears me out, laughing and smiling, without blowing me out right away

Just say: "im not jealous!" Then continue your routine untill she rejects you again

 

[SW15]

I don't know what boyfriend destroy is but I'm guessing it's like clever comeback if she mentions a boyfriend. Couple of times in the past I've said something like (in regards to having a boyfriend) "So what I'm not asking him out, i'm asking you out" etc. Sometimes she laughed, sometimes roll eyes, either way did not change outcome.

That's essentially what a Boyfriend Destroyer line is. I've never seen it work in my experience in the field either. Some say it can have an impact. I have little experience using those lines.

I rarely get IHAB'ed anymore.

Getting IHAB'ed is a sign of a game error. IHAB's usually result from poor screening and poor conversational flow.

A woman with a legitimate boyfriend likely isn't going to be receptive to an initial approach (Open from London Daygame). Somewhere in the Stack-Vibe-Invest part of the approach, a woman with a boyfriend isn't going to engage much even if she allows an open. Somewhere in Stack-Vibe-Invest, a man can exit the conversation without ever asking for a date or asking a phone number (Close).

I've exited plenty of interactions without an ask out. I believe in watching for signs she's investing the conversation and signs she's interested in getting to know me more. I'm also looking for positive body language.

Men who spam style approach will often not screen well and ask nearly every female for a date/number. That's when the IHAB comes out, whether it is an actual boyfriend or a fictional boyfriend.

 

[BPH]

@Oatmeal31 this:

Worth a shot? If she has a boyfriend (or is saying she does) she is not interested. This is wasted mental space when you could be focused on other things.

If she has a boyfriend but is interested enough, she won't tell you about him.

If she doesn't have a boyfriend and is interested, she won't lie and tell you she has one.

The truth doesn't really matter - they're both rejections.

I can only think of one time where a girl has ever wanted to continue the interaction with me after mentioning she had a boyfriend, and it was the girl I lost my virginity to. After walking and talking with her in the mall for a little while, I asked her for her number when she told me she had a boyfriend. I told her it was nice to meet her and started walking away when she stopped me and told me I could take her number, and we could still be friends.

Turns out her relationship with this guy was very on-again, off-again, and she ended up being my first during one of those off-again periods.

Still, that is 1/101, so I wouldn't invest this much thought into it.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

Open the conversation by mentioning her boyfriend.

Just assume she has one.

"You're boyfriend's gonna hate this, but..."

 

[characternote]

That's essentially what a Boyfriend Destroyer line is. I've never seen it work in my experience in the field either

Neither have I.
I've seen them used a lot in old infields, but at best it got a laugh. Never anything else
However, didn't you say you'd 'wished you knew about boyfriend destroyer lines earlier', before? Why? If they don't work.

 

[crowolf]

If it's too often the first thing they say to you - maybe you should change something about your looks or your approach.

If that's not the case, then "I don't want to be your boyfriend" or simply saying "okay" and continuing like nothing happened (but without instantly asking silly rapport questions), should be fine. But I'd usually take it as a "no" and move on.

 

[SW15]

However, didn't you say you'd 'wished you knew about boyfriend destroyer lines earlier', before? Why? If they don't work.

I did say that. I think they have the potential to work. In my infields, I have a small sample size with using them.

Over the last 15 years, I've gotten fewer IHABs because I've let conversations fizzle out more so than trying to push the envelope.

I recognized when a conversation wasn't going in the right direction and I ejected. That's the primary reason why I have gotten fewer IHABs.

 

[Oatmeal31]

If it's too often the first thing they say to you - maybe you should change something about your looks or your approach.

If that's not the case, then "I don't want to be your boyfriend" or simply saying "okay" and continuing like nothing happened (but without instantly asking silly rapport questions), should be fine. But I'd usually take it as a "no" and move on.

Nowadays, they actually entertain conversation for a bit before letting it go. Even after being direct and telling them the reason why I approached them, they entertain it. It's only after I tell them I'm going to take them out, and describe how I'm going to do it that they let it slip.

Seems they like the way I hit on them, but something is missing. I feel I'm going for the close a bit too quickly and have to extend my interactions. But I was wondering if I could get through without necessarily doing that because they genuinely enjoy it

 

[BaronOfHair]

"I don't think my boyfriend/partner would like that"

Fairly easy hurdle to overcome, via these exact words:
"That fu-kwad isn't who I want sitting across from me at Baltaire tommorow night. Nor who I've dreamt of having in my bed this weekend, purring in my ear and moaning in ecstasy beneath me, from the moment I set eyes on them, honey. YOU ARE!!!"

No, I'm not kidding, Oat... Say those exact words, with clarify and conviction. Practicing ahead of time is advisable