"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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What's a Good First Text When You Meet a Girl?

Dante420

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Was just thinking about this, don't think I've read anything that's addressed this. What's a good text that's not boring and sets you apart from others?


The things is all text-based forms of communication are subject to be interpreted based off HER mood, despite how your best intentions.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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dude, i was thinking the same thing recently. We all know that texting IS the main form of communication with birds nowadays but you never know or sometimes over analyze your sent texts to them because your tone might have been misconstrued or she might take it the wrong way that you originally intented the message to come across. We seriously need a big post about this new game and the new "text techniques"

The game has changed fellas.
 

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I just sent two 'first-texts' today.

Here are the convos:

1)

Me: Hey punk (she told me she likes punk rock)

Her: Who's this?

Me: It's WhtRbt

Her: Did you get a new phone?

Me: lol no I'm a new WhtRbt

Her: Ooooooooo WhtRbt from xxx. Woops lol

Me: This is *girlsname* yes?

Her: Yep I was really confused for a second. There is another WhtRbt I know who always says that to me. lol

Me: Ok well now you have my number. I'll prly hit u up next week so we can meet up.

Her: Awesome sounds good :)



2)

Me: *girlsname* (This is what I usually do. I just text her name to her or say 'hi *girlsname*)

Her: WhtRbt (she already had my number... when I get a number I text them 'yo' right away so they have mine too)

Me: Lets go for a drink after work

Her: Where at?

Me: Come to my place and we'll leave from there

Her: K where do you live?



Easy.
 

WhtRbt

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The things is all text-based forms of communication are subject to be interpreted based off HER mood, despite how your best intentions.
Text whatever you want. If she takes something the wrong way, it's her own fault and nothing to worry about.
 

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The best first text is a first call.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Ice882

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well then if you ever have a problem, you know what to try.

Calling separates you from the 100's of AFCs who will text her. You don't need to think of an amazing first text that sets you apart--the calling does that for you.
 

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I've always found that it's a real pain in the ass to get ahold of girls if you try to call them. Also, I get annoyed when people call me, and usually don't answer my phone, but if someone texts me I pretty much always respond.

I just find texting allows me a better chance at getting in touch with a girl. All I need to do is contact her and set up a date. If I can get ahold of her, and get her to come out, it's pretty much over.
 

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Also My favorite first text (other than a quick yo or hey after I get her number to verify hers and so she has mine) is to just text her name to her. Imagine getting a text from ANYONE and it's just your name. How likely are you to respond? Very likely.

A person's name is like music to their ears.
 

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WhtRbt said:
Also My favorite first text (other than a quick yo or hey after I get her number to verify hers and so she has mine) is to just text her name to her. Imagine getting a text from ANYONE and it's just your name. How likely are you to respond? Very likely.

A person's name is like music to their ears.
Sounds brilliant, will definitly try.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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lol smiley face
 

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Relying solely on IM, email or text messaging is a Buffer. It's just the 21st century equivalent of passing notes in class. It's safe for her, its safe for you. You want to not be like other guys? Don't be safe.
 
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