"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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What's a Good First Text When You Meet a Girl?

Dante420

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Was just thinking about this, don't think I've read anything that's addressed this. What's a good text that's not boring and sets you apart from others?


The things is all text-based forms of communication are subject to be interpreted based off HER mood, despite how your best intentions.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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dude, i was thinking the same thing recently. We all know that texting IS the main form of communication with birds nowadays but you never know or sometimes over analyze your sent texts to them because your tone might have been misconstrued or she might take it the wrong way that you originally intented the message to come across. We seriously need a big post about this new game and the new "text techniques"

The game has changed fellas.
 

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I just sent two 'first-texts' today.

Here are the convos:

1)

Me: Hey punk (she told me she likes punk rock)

Her: Who's this?

Me: It's WhtRbt

Her: Did you get a new phone?

Me: lol no I'm a new WhtRbt

Her: Ooooooooo WhtRbt from xxx. Woops lol

Me: This is *girlsname* yes?

Her: Yep I was really confused for a second. There is another WhtRbt I know who always says that to me. lol

Me: Ok well now you have my number. I'll prly hit u up next week so we can meet up.

Her: Awesome sounds good :)



2)

Me: *girlsname* (This is what I usually do. I just text her name to her or say 'hi *girlsname*)

Her: WhtRbt (she already had my number... when I get a number I text them 'yo' right away so they have mine too)

Me: Lets go for a drink after work

Her: Where at?

Me: Come to my place and we'll leave from there

Her: K where do you live?



Easy.
 

WhtRbt

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The things is all text-based forms of communication are subject to be interpreted based off HER mood, despite how your best intentions.
Text whatever you want. If she takes something the wrong way, it's her own fault and nothing to worry about.
 

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The best first text is a first call.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Ice882

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well then if you ever have a problem, you know what to try.

Calling separates you from the 100's of AFCs who will text her. You don't need to think of an amazing first text that sets you apart--the calling does that for you.
 

WhtRbt

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I've always found that it's a real pain in the ass to get ahold of girls if you try to call them. Also, I get annoyed when people call me, and usually don't answer my phone, but if someone texts me I pretty much always respond.

I just find texting allows me a better chance at getting in touch with a girl. All I need to do is contact her and set up a date. If I can get ahold of her, and get her to come out, it's pretty much over.
 

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Also My favorite first text (other than a quick yo or hey after I get her number to verify hers and so she has mine) is to just text her name to her. Imagine getting a text from ANYONE and it's just your name. How likely are you to respond? Very likely.

A person's name is like music to their ears.
 

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WhtRbt said:
Also My favorite first text (other than a quick yo or hey after I get her number to verify hers and so she has mine) is to just text her name to her. Imagine getting a text from ANYONE and it's just your name. How likely are you to respond? Very likely.

A person's name is like music to their ears.
Sounds brilliant, will definitly try.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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lol smiley face
 

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Relying solely on IM, email or text messaging is a Buffer. It's just the 21st century equivalent of passing notes in class. It's safe for her, its safe for you. You want to not be like other guys? Don't be safe.
 
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