"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

Read more...

whats a good comeback when you get friendzoned?

garruk

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jun 12, 2008
Messages
437
Reaction score
7
i was just wondering if you guys have any clever responses if you get friendzoned.

this plate i have is starting to stray away and i htink she might ahve found a steady boyfriend. im pretty sure that the next time i call for sex or something im going to get the lets be friends speal.

whats a CF or clever line you guys would use in my shoes?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

Read more...

Scars

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jun 20, 2007
Messages
2,126
Reaction score
1,002
Age
36
Location
Phoenix
The best tool in your arsenal right now is no contact. Or if she talks to you act completely unphased. You are already trying to come up with clever lines to defuse this which means it hit an emotional nerve in you, and she WILL notice it and it will only turn her off even more. Your best bet is playing it cool. Perhaps even wish her luck with her new boyfriend. Tell her everything she wants to here, but act like nothing has changed. Keep flirting her with her. Act like her new boy toy doesn't bother you at all. Infact act like you're BETTER than him. Don't say it with your words, say it through your actions. I stress this a lot but it is so true. Words don't really mean a damn thing sometimes, which is why one clever line isn't going to get it anywhere. You have to act like you are the man, you have to BE the man. You got friendzoned because she is losing interest. What you have to do is levy some of that interest away from guy #1 on to you. You won't do this by showing you are emotionally effected or feel threatened. Just keep doing your thing. Perhaps even take it up a notch. The key here is to remain cool and collected. If she really does drop the axe then just ignore her. You aren't getting any from her anyway, so what use is she as a friend. Let your actions show her that unless there is a reason to stay, then you have no interest in being her "friend". SHOW her that she is the one losing here.
 

jophil28

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 18, 2006
Messages
5,216
Reaction score
278
Location
Gold Coast. Aust.
Firstly if a woman is pulling away, you need to pull away double-

Secondly, if you hear the first few words of the LJBF speech, stop her and say this - " I know what you are saying and you know what, you just beat me to it. I've been thinking that you and I could be just ' good friends' without any other expectations. "
Then shut up and listen to her stumble , or just slowly walk away..
 

Gangster Of Love

Master Don Juan
Joined
Dec 27, 2002
Messages
2,574
Reaction score
66
Age
52
Location
Los Angeles
Best thing to do is to do nothing. So you're thoe one who calls for sex? This is a good example of why you want to set it up to where all your plates/FB's,/etc. are the ones who are contacting you, instead of the other way around.

If she usually waits for you to call/contact to hook up, then the best option is to NOT contact her and not be predictable. There is no one-liner that will be the answer to your predicament. She needs to feel like she is loosing more by having you out of her life than by not being with her new boyfriend. Either way, this is what you have to deal and accept when you play this game.

If you just stay away, and not give her grief and just let her down easy this time, with this particular bf, then you'll be the first one she will contact in the future when she's once again looking for a sex master. Just let her go for now, if needed.
 

yuppaz

Master Don Juan
Joined
Sep 21, 2008
Messages
1,025
Reaction score
99
reply to original post: "Introduce me to your friends"
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

jafyk

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jul 4, 2008
Messages
1,010
Reaction score
26
Location
San Diego, California
jophil28 said:
Firstly if a woman is pulling away, you need to pull away double-

Secondly, if you hear the first few words of the LJBF speech, stop her and say this - " I know what you are saying and you know what, you just beat me to it. I've been thinking that you and I could be just ' good friends' without any other expectations. "
Then shut up and listen to her stumble , or just slowly walk away..
Lol, reminds me of the last time a girl was trying to make me wait on sex. I told her we could just be friends. Boy could I hear the hurt in voice over the phone as she bargained out of it, lol.
Listen to Jophil man. If a woman is not interested why try to make her interested. Next her and find the next person.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

Read more...

OamImrsNemo

Don Juan
Joined
Oct 19, 2009
Messages
171
Reaction score
2
Location
Cali
garruk said:
i was just wondering if you guys have any clever responses if you get friendzoned.

this plate i have is starting to stray away and i htink she might ahve found a steady boyfriend. im pretty sure that the next time i call for sex or something im going to get the lets be friends speal.

whats a CF or clever line you guys would use in my shoes?

umm how about moving on?
 

Van_The_Man

Don Juan
Joined
Dec 9, 2008
Messages
16
Reaction score
1
Location
U.S.
So is no contact the way to go guys? Are a lot of you saying you'd just drop her out of your life the second she gives you that speech, I don't know if it's just me though I could still see some potential in having a friend that is a girl. Not that it would evolve into a relationship, but instead that she may have friends who are single and could open up more possibilities for you. Just my thought.
 

garruk

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jun 12, 2008
Messages
437
Reaction score
7
Scars said:
The best tool in your arsenal right now is no contact. Or if she talks to you act completely unphased. You are already trying to come up with clever lines to defuse this which means it hit an emotional nerve in you, and she WILL notice it and it will only turn her off even more. Your best bet is playing it cool. Perhaps even wish her luck with her new boyfriend. Tell her everything she wants to here, but act like nothing has changed. Keep flirting her with her. Act like her new boy toy doesn't bother you at all. Infact act like you're BETTER than him. Don't say it with your words, say it through your actions. I stress this a lot but it is so true. Words don't really mean a damn thing sometimes, which is why one clever line isn't going to get it anywhere. You have to act like you are the man, you have to BE the man. You got friendzoned because she is losing interest. What you have to do is levy some of that interest away from guy #1 on to you. You won't do this by showing you are emotionally effected or feel threatened. Just keep doing your thing. Perhaps even take it up a notch. The key here is to remain cool and collected. If she really does drop the axe then just ignore her. You aren't getting any from her anyway, so what use is she as a friend. Let your actions show her that unless there is a reason to stay, then you have no interest in being her "friend". SHOW her that she is the one losing here.

love this
 

Gangster Of Love

Master Don Juan
Joined
Dec 27, 2002
Messages
2,574
Reaction score
66
Age
52
Location
Los Angeles
Van_The_Man said:
So is no contact the way to go guys? Are a lot of you saying you'd just drop her out of your life the second she gives you that speech, I don't know if it's just me though I could still see some potential in having a friend that is a girl. Not that it would evolve into a relationship, but instead that she may have friends who are single and could open up more possibilities for you. Just my thought.
Nah. She's not hooking this guy up with any of her friends. Only in fantasy. Had they never gotten involved, and it was a plantonic relationship, perhaps she would have hooked him up with her friends. Right now, it is not convenient that he be in the picture, so she must eliminate him ASAP. OP needs to be ok wit this. That is what he signed up for when he had her as a FB.

By sticking around as an asexual, platonic friend, she will always remember him that way, and will never go back to being his sexual partner once the current boyfriend is out of the picture; and he doesn't escape with any dignity.

The fact that he is posting here tells that he cares more, even if just minimal, about the situation than she does. If he stays away, and not even initiate the next booty call, he walks away with some respect and all of the power. It is one big negotiation, and one must be willing to walk away with nothing.
 

Uberguy

Senior Don Juan
Joined
May 15, 2010
Messages
210
Reaction score
15
Van_The_Man said:
So is no contact the way to go guys? Are a lot of you saying you'd just drop her out of your life the second she gives you that speech, I don't know if it's just me though I could still see some potential in having a friend that is a girl. Not that it would evolve into a relationship, but instead that she may have friends who are single and could open up more possibilities for you. Just my thought.
Friends that are girls are great...IF you're not attracted to them. But if you're secretly (or not so secretly) attracted to them, you're wasting your time at best and being a psychological masochist at the worst.

If you're attracted, NC works pretty well. I've turned the tables on a few girls by playing (and winning) the game of "who cares less". It's human nature: girls want what they can't have. If you're there for them when they're not giving you p****, they have no incentive to suddenly start giving it to you again. But make yourself into a rarity, and you'll be surprised what some girls will do to rekindle your interest.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

nismo-4

Moderator
Joined
Jan 31, 2005
Messages
4,438
Reaction score
1,142
Location
From New Orleans, Louisiana to Atlanta, Georgia!!!
(Banging gavel constantly)Order! Order! This court will come to order! (Stops banging the gavel)

This case is simple. You can say one of these:

1. I have enough friends

2. You beat me to the punch, I saw you only as a friend

And in the end, you need to:

1. Be unfazed
2. Face this unfortunate reality of the game, women play it all the time
3. Walk away
4. Go no contact
5. Keep moving forward like Toyota.

Finally, think about why you were friendzoned. Maybe you were uninteresting, she wanted attention, you didn't kino, you didn't flirt, she doesn't think you're cute, your ethnicity, whatever. Who the hell cares? Not her. She's just not that into you.

The court is gonna order you to try again with different girls, and be sexual. Do it fearlessly, but don't rape her! And don't pressure her! That's my verdict.

Case closed.
 

zekko

Master Don Juan
Joined
Aug 6, 2009
Messages
16,801
Reaction score
10,036
If you're attracted, NC works pretty well. I've turned the tables on a few girls by playing (and winning) the game of "who cares less". It's human nature: girls want what they can't have.
If you go no contact with the intention of getting her back, you have to realize it may not work out the way you want it to. If the girl is more interested in the new guy than you, she may not really care if you go no contact. But in that case you're still better off, because she's out of your life.
 

Naughty Ninja

Banned
Joined
Apr 9, 2010
Messages
2,419
Reaction score
98
Location
Banned
Grow some balls and say "I can't be friends with someone I only want as a Fvck buddy." That'll turn that around.

Shows you've got the upper hand.

Ony wanted her for sex (even if you really didn't).

And knocks her ego down a bit for thinking you thought of her as GF material.


Then walk away without a word and let her stew over it.

If she doesn't want to see you again who cares? She already stated that with the LJBF speech.

But it will knock her down a few pegs and possibly turn the guy she "likes" as BF material chump.

She'll be trying to question the hell out of the fact you just said you "only wanted her as an FB all along". Ignore her questions and go NC... she may come running but then you'll have to play the FB role. If you can handle that.
 

jafyk

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jul 4, 2008
Messages
1,010
Reaction score
26
Location
San Diego, California
nismo-4 said:
(Banging gavel constantly)Order! Order! This court will come to order! (Stops banging the gavel)

This case is simple. You can say one of these:

1. I have enough friends

2. You beat me to the punch, I saw you only as a friend

And in the end, you need to:

1. Be unfazed
2. Face this unfortunate reality of the game, women play it all the time
3. Walk away
4. Go no contact
5. Keep moving forward like Toyota.

Finally, think about why you were friendzoned. Maybe you were uninteresting, she wanted attention, you didn't kino, you didn't flirt, she doesn't think you're cute, your ethnicity, whatever. Who the hell cares? Not her. She's just not that into you.

The court is gonna order you to try again with different girls, and be sexual. Do it fearlessly, but don't rape her! And don't pressure her! That's my verdict.

Case closed.
YOur posts are so hilarious "bangs gavel, order order, lol" Wake up judge it's sosuave chat room, lmao.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

Read more...

Top