"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Whats a good alias?

Whats a good alias?

  • Pulse

    Votes: 5 62.5%
  • Beat

    Votes: 1 12.5%
  • Groove

    Votes: 2 25.0%

  • Total voters
    8

ian1988

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Just kinda sunk in my head i kinda need an alias... So ive narrowed it down to 3...

Just a bit of background info as to why I choose the names.. I am a drummer, I sing, play a little guitar and love to dance... and I love music in general with a passion.

So getting connotations with being a drummer.. it was between.. Groove, Pulse or Beat..

I would have liked Rhythm.. but that got taken :(

So VOTE AWAY PEOPLE!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Soyoushave

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why do you want an alias?
because Mystery has one?
Correct me if I'm wrong, but being a DJ is about being your (best) self.
Showing who YOU are, without hiding behind things.
An alias is the opposite. It shows that you're hiding behind something. It sounds very 'batman/spiderman/superman' like. Finding a cool name to fit your personality.

I'd just go with your normal name;)
 

Obsidian

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Yeah, whenever I meet a girl in a bar, I say "Hey, my name's [insert name here], but my friends usually call me Obsidian." It really gets the convo going.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Mental

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ian1988 said:
Just kinda sunk in my head i kinda need an alias... So ive narrowed it down to 3...

Just a bit of background info as to why I choose the names.. I am a drummer, I sing, play a little guitar and love to dance... and I love music in general with a passion.

So getting connotations with being a drummer.. it was between.. Groove, Pulse or Beat..

I would have liked Rhythm.. but that got taken :(

So VOTE AWAY PEOPLE!
I think you might look at a "nickname" more than an avatar, which, I suppose some might argue, is sort of the same thing.

Here are a few I've had since early high school until now.

Draco

Draco, of course, refering to the constellation, and the idea that I looked a bit more like a vampire back then. (I have a natural widow's peak)

Yard Boy

One of my friends and I were playing a computer game, and I showed him an easter egg where you swear at the announcer and he gets pissed off, and makes fun of you, takes away points, etc. This time, the announcer changed my name to "yard Boy." My buddy thought it was hilarious, and started calling me "Yard Boy"

and now some close friends call me "Mental" though I don't introduce myself to the ladies as such.

"Mental" is because I specialize in a branch of illusion that deals with reading minds; I also have a character that I perform (an "amazing Johnathan" type of lunatic), so all my performer friends call me "mental."

I don't use it to go out with the ladies.

I think most nicknames sound goofy if you force them on people. I tried going for "Ace" once, but absolutely no one wanted to call me that (actually, my aunt came up with it; I liked it at the time, so I tried spreading it around, and it didn't work). I think it has to grow somewhat independantly of the person who the name is for.

Only time you might need an avatar is when you're performing, writing, etc and don't want your real name known.

That being said, I think there are pros and cons to all of the nicknames you've chosen:

Beat sounds cool, but then it sounds like the vegetable, or it can sound like you're violent... or that you're always, as the British say, "having a pull."

Groove sounds a little cornball to me, personally. Plus, I think it tend to be a common "avatar" name for DJ's, etc. Actually, I've met 2 or 3 guys who try referring to themselves as "DJ Groove."

Pulse is ok, but still, I'm not a huge fan of it. I suppose I can take it or leave it.
 

Someone Much cooler

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lol unless you have something to hide....like you slingin and you don't want the cops to know who you are, then whats the point of an alias? I actaully think is kinda lame.
 

B4IFURU18?

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Wow this post is ridiculous...and the thought of using an alias is as lame as anything I've ever encountered here.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Telos

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Yeah, whenever I meet a girl in a bar, I say "Hey, my name's [insert name here], but my friends usually call me Obsidian." It really gets the convo going.
I hope to god this was sarcasm.
 

Suicide

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Dude, if you ever introduce yourself to a woman with one of those names, the only thing they're going to be calling you is Dork.
 

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Choose wiser. In 6 months time disco might go out of style.
 

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since youre a drummer how about...

- drum stick?
- beat stick?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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