You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Why would a girl show interest in you when she already has a bf? Do they do this just for fun? B/c a girl was leading me on, but it turns out she has a bf. She asked me my relationship status though (in front of him). Can anyone tell me what's going on and why girls flirt even w/ bf?You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
ROFL ^^^ I tend to agree.Cod3r said:
What's with you people and your judgemental attitudes? what's # of posts have to do with it? there'll always be more questions bro. If anyone ever says they 'know it all' they're fooling. I know it may seem like an AFC question I'm actually not afraid to admit when I am confused. I help in areas that I know and expect help in areas where I need help.Cod3r said:
You know you're right, I was judgemental and undeservingly harsh and I apologize for my lack of understanding of your confusion. I'm a bad person.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Being the other person in that "People" I can say, that was a bit of a harsh response. Maybe these things just make more sense to me because of my psychology backround. I know that many people don't have that advantage though. That's pretty much as apologetic as I can get.DJ_in_making said: