"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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:confused: Why would a girl show interest in you when she already has a bf? Do they do this just for fun? B/c a girl was leading me on, but it turns out she has a bf. She asked me my relationship status though (in front of him). Can anyone tell me what's going on and why girls flirt even w/ bf?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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899 posts and ur asking this ?? I don't have the energy...


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Cod3r said:
899 posts and ur asking this ?? I don't have the energy...


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ROFL ^^^ I tend to agree.

Statistically speaking you have a better chance of hooking up with a married girl, or one in a LTR then you do with a single girl without a boyfriend.



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Cod3r said:
899 posts and ur asking this ?? I don't have the energy...


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What's with you people and your judgemental attitudes? what's # of posts have to do with it? there'll always be more questions bro. If anyone ever says they 'know it all' they're fooling. I know it may seem like an AFC question I'm actually not afraid to admit when I am confused. I help in areas that I know and expect help in areas where I need help.

Isn't that what this is about?????
 

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What's with you people and your judgemental attitudes? what's # of posts have to do with it? there'll always be more questions bro. If anyone ever says they 'know it all' they're fooling. I know it may seem like an AFC question I'm actually not afraid to admit when I am confused. I help in areas that I know and expect help in areas where I need help.
You know you're right, I was judgemental and undeservingly harsh and I apologize for my lack of understanding of your confusion. I'm a bad person.

Females flirt with guys eventho they have bf's because they are mostly insecure and want to know that other guys besides their bf's find them attractive. They also like excitement and drama and having fantasy's about fvcking you and cheating on the bf with you gets them wet on the inside, dosen't mean they will act, but acting it out in certain ways allows them to have their drama and their man too... Also some girls flirt around to have a guy like you hanging off their ****s so just in case they decide to X the bf they can have a backup very close by...

Hope i helped bo and sincerest apologizes for my initial response lol


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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I don't know if all girls do this, but I do have a few friends who admit that they hang out and flirt blatantly with me infront of their bfs to make them jealous, or rather, to see if they will be jealous and angry. A sh!t test, that's what it is. For the bf. For you, you are just a tool in her grand plan. Nah, just think of it as social proof.
 

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I was just in the same situtation as you. this chick was giving me ALL kinds of signals, even tho she had a bf, her roomate even asked why I msg'ed her and said, "aren't you and her talking?" - i totally thought it was mine for the taking. however, just the other day we were talking on the phone, she asked me if i had a GF, and thought it would be awkward if i did and we were talking? but i was like, well, you have a bf, it isn't awkward? needless to say, after talking about it a little more, she basically told me that she didn't kiss me cus she has a bf, and isn't going to cheat on him.
sorry for going off on a limb....anyway, i think in short, they just like the attention.
 

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DJ_in_making said:
What's with you people and your judgemental attitudes? what's # of posts have to do with it? there'll always be more questions bro. If anyone ever says they 'know it all' they're fooling. I know it may seem like an AFC question I'm actually not afraid to admit when I am confused. I help in areas that I know and expect help in areas where I need help.

Isn't that what this is about?????
Being the other person in that "People" I can say, that was a bit of a harsh response. Maybe these things just make more sense to me because of my psychology backround. I know that many people don't have that advantage though. That's pretty much as apologetic as I can get.

Alot of the questions on this forum are literaly Pyschology 101, not even the more complicated stuff. Read a few intro psych books. While it is not going to equal what I learned over the course of years(yeah I have an ego too, and it's pretty big) it will definately shed some light on peoples behaviour for you.

Cod3r hit the nail on the head with his reply. It all comes down to ego.


Apologies,


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tnx for the replies guys. No worries! in hindsight it is a very obvious answer but I like to consult with others even when its small, its not that I'm not confident in my experience but you know the phrase "don't be your own doctor" or in this case consultant just needed a few co-signers.



-Tnx yall!
 
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