"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Stephen23

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One of the biggest lesson I've learnt in life is that you choose how u feel...... You aren't sad because your life isn't going good right now your sad because u choose to be sad remember u can't control what happens with things outside your control but u can always choose how u react to it ..........if u wanna be happy then just look into yourself and u can be happy
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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There are a lot of things in this life that can throw you off balance and affect your emotions, at which point not even your self control will be able to contain your emotions. I would modify your thesis like so; maturity comes with time and experience, I have no control over time, I can only control how much experience I gain.
 

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Define choosing. Because choosing something can be done consciously and unconsciously

Your feeling depends on many factors, such as :
-Mood
-Health (if you're not sick)
-Hours of sleep (if you're not tired)
ect...

Even If you're the strongest man alive, if you're either sick or tired, you won't control your feelings
 

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The root cause of all negative emotion is expectation, and when things do not turn out the way you thought it would. The path to happiness is to take joy in the effort without assuming what may happen. Think of it this way... you are happy when you start a project... and as long as the project is going well, you remain happy... and of course when things turn out well. You become depressed and unhappy when your plans do not match your hopes.

Have goals because you need a means to determine if what you are doing is working, but never EXPECT anything will happen the way you want because there are just too many variables in that equation.

This is why the ancient Greek philosophers placed so much value on hope. Pandora closed the box before the pestilence that would have killed hope was released. Hope is the fuel in effort that creates happiness. But never allow hope to become expectation.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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