"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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What you should NOT say to women: a small investigation

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I have a friend who spends a lot of time on a popular iPhone application looking for women. Curious to get to the bottom of the situation (whether it works or not and how much competition is involved) I made a post as a female. All that was included in the posting was (1) my age, (2)the fact that I was a "female," (3) a message saying "Hi" with a picture of the girl on the background.

I did not manipulate anything, so this is only a frequency table I put together. Notice that the post was NOT sexual AT ALL, which I suspect would only increase the numbers. In total, I received 68 responses in less than 45 minutes.

In short, stay away from these openers. Better yet, stay away from online gaming in general! Here you go:

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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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The image is really blurry for me I'm not sure if it is for any one else. And VikingKing has been recently making it re-known that the supply for women has blatantly out matched the supply for men.

I thought it was bad a year ago and can only imagine it getting worse.
 

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Screen shots are a pain in the butt to make look clear. If anyone is having the same problem, I would be happy to email you the file
 

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Must be a pain in the ass when guys are this boring.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Masculinity said:
Screen shots are a pain in the butt to make look clear. If anyone is having the same problem, I would be happy to email you the file
I'm still curious on what they said so email me it please!
 

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Frayzer said:
The image is really blurry for me I'm not sure if it is for any one else. And VikingKing has been recently making it re-known that the supply for women has blatantly out matched the supply for men.

I thought it was bad a year ago and can only imagine it getting worse.
I'm on my phone and can see it, click the magnifying class in top right corner. I could see it just fine then.
The only semi-okay opener on there is I bet your keeper. But still low-tier.
Maybe the "how do you feel about black guys?"
 

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PipeDope said:
I'm on my phone and can see it, click the magnifying class in top right corner. I could see it just fine then.
The only semi-okay opener on there is I bet your keeper. But still low-tier.
Maybe the "how do you feel about black guys?"
Oh sweet didn't notice that, thanks!

This is why I figure out what to say by looking at her pics if not reading her bio and gathering a question or statement from there.
 

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Frayzer said:
Oh sweet didn't notice that, thanks!

This is why I figure out what to say by looking at her pics if not reading her bio and gathering a question or statement from there.
Agreed, the clever observer always wins the opener.
 

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File this one under "duh".
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Frayzer said:
Oh sweet didn't notice that, thanks!

This is why I figure out what to say by looking at her pics if not reading her bio and gathering a question or statement from there.
Exactly, preferably find something in her photos or profile that you can mess with her. That way you can sometimes screen if shes an uptight ***** or not.
 
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