"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
What You Prefer a Girl To do If She Is Jealous
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Bible_Belt
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penkitten
Master Don Juan
penkitten
Master Don Juan
even if you sorta feel jealous, you arent suppose to show it.
can you think of ways to do this?
acting insercure or getting mad isnt ever going to help any relationship and neither will stewing in it.
perhaps when you feel jealous you can just ride around until the feeling goes away, turn up the radio and sing at the top of your lungs, whos gonna know?
everyone goes thru a stage of jealously with every relationship but you need to find some sort of release that will keep it maintained.
hope that helped
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
The next time you feel that way, try to remember the earliest time you ever felt that way. Think about the situation that made you feel that way and try to determine why it made you feel that way. Once you do, you have found the reason why you feel that way whenever your boyfriend talks to another woman.
What's left is to determine how you go about addressing that reason. That'll be your next session.
That'll be $275.
Tboner
Don Juan
If you're the man, you won't get jealous. You'll realize that there are millions of women out there and any one of them can be replaced easily.
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I think how we handle jealous is more important than the why. This forum has ALOT of bull****, most of it comming from the beloved DJ BIBLE.
If a girls actions are making me jealous I would tell her: Hey when you hug another guy, when ur chatting up guys all the time I get a little iffy about our relationship, I'll try not to get all crazy, but realize I do get jealous. You are who you are and your emotions are yours. Deal with that shi.t.
All this your fearful pretend to not to care shi.t isnt who I am, I do care and would hope that the bitc h has enough respect for me to reform some of her actions and I'll try to trust the bitc h some more.
That is all you can ask for......
You are the perfect you.
good night
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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Cant just keep nexting girls you like because they do something that makes you Jealous. Then again, cant just keep putting up with **** that makes you jealous! That is just ignorance, not confidence! Of course though, if you are a jealous idiot, you have to control it sometimes! And as I know, guys are usually far worse at controlling it than girls! Guys have that green eyed monstor within them just waiting to come out at all times!
Zonder
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GirlCrazy
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By not getting jealous in the first place. It only shows you're insecure, and that's a real turnoff.
The insecurity makes you feel unworthy, leading to the self-fufilling reality of you being unworthy. Right now you are unworthy.
Either figure out why your man talking to another woman bothers you in the first place, and correct that behavior, or accept the fact that he's going to eventually ditch you for somebody less uptight. I know I would.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
TooColdUlrick
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wow, big surprise! jealous and insecure thicks...to the point of contemplating therapy...one should steer clear of. nothing but problems on the horizon.
doesn't matter what you prefer. i would next you.
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