"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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What you Need to know about the shy girl

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K guys I'm tryin to get with the shy girl, quiet girl. I'm somewhat sure that they don't portray IL the same way that normal girls would. Maybe this girl is just not interested in me, but she's been flirty / playful online and has invited me over to hang w/ her roommates.

One more thing, I asked if she wanted to grab lunch w/ me before my next class, she took a little time to respond, then said, she usually eats lunch with so and so (i know them all), and then asked if i wanted to join. Does this mean anything ?

I need to know everything you all know about shy girls, and IL, b/c they are a different breed than normal women. Thx
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Just cuz she seems shy in public doesn't mean much. She might be a really crazy girl once you get to know her.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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i've broken through the shy barrier. she was they type of girl you wanna take home to meet mommy.

too much work to keep it together, and i didnt want a LTR or even STR- although i thought i did.

too much trouble...

that's why i ask "how much is she worth it to you?"
 
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she's shy at first, but once u get to know her she's normal, maybe somewhat crazy once in a while. But she is somewhat quiet to begin with. I've been hanging out w/ her and her rooommates a little this past week and a half. Been flirting a little, but Ive gotten no real heavy eye contact. My kino has done some good, but I'm still not sure about her IL. I will probably ask her out on Friday to end this, but I'd still like to get feedback on the shy girls IL, if she shows it. I've heard from some shy girls that they dont really show any IL. Which is freakin' annoying b/c its like a guessing game.
 
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she's an awesome girl. Def. worth a lot to me IMO. I have some **** buddies, so its not really about that. LTR material IMO. Whatever it takes within reason W/O having to cross the AFC barrier.
 
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Honestly, she's not that much different than any other girl. You should probably move at a slightly slower pace, and do more work to get her in the comfort zone before you use kino - that's about all you need to do differently.
 
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Even girls who seem outgoing and extroverted, can act shy when around you if they are attracted to you. I've hung around girls who were into me but did a amazing job at not showing it.

Maybe she's just shy around you?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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