Ever onward
Master Don Juan
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I wish there were some kind of explanation for the reputation system. Mine says I'm "off the scale" is that good or bad?
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Good points, the "rep" system is a joke especially here where chumps far outweigh posters who actually have a clue. Its just going to give the current AFCs a platform to continue parroting bollocks because those who actually put stock into a "reputation" system will be to worried to call them out.Weak_Game said:Looks like the bodybuilding.com forum
Didn't mind the old design but this is fine.
Also like the bodybuilding.com forum's the rep system. I hated it. People will be afraid to post how they really feel about topics when someone with a higher rep can neg them into nothing. People spamming posts of useless crap in hopes someone + reps them. Or begging for reps. Abuse of the rep system and so forth.
I like how i knew who the good posters were from reading the forums based on feedback. Not on some green e-peen they have. So now someone with massive reps here will be a virgin that dosent go out and actually get laid. I liked quality content not quanity feedback from kiss asses.
Now someone can neg rep me for speaking my mind. I dont like it honestly.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
i really liked the age discription also, however alot of folks just lied on it, so sometimes it wasnt so useful.:rockon:Tomatoes said:Doesnt display age with location anymore...i always found that usefull.=
Yeah, and even though I like the fresher format it looks like I'm on some type of MySpace site trolling for teenie-boppers. :nervous:Ricky said:This forum does allow for more discrete viewing which is a real advantage if you want to sneak a peak at work. Not that the girl wasn't an HB9 or so on the screen.....
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Its above your username.shiningshadow said:DISLIKE: There's no date on the messages.
I think this is the best advice ronny boy offered on this site to date!:yes: Just joking ronny.Don Ronny said:Too much white hurts the eyes!
:nervous:
Seriously. Try a darker muted color backgroundthat wont fry our retinas.
Other than that, nice job!
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.