She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Nice tips, and i think you are right about going with the flow. When you're going with force, you're trying too hard.Originally posted by TrickyD
1. Trust your Gut... You're having that feeling for a reason. You know this girl is not for you. Let her go (that's what my gut tells me - Of course I didn't listen). Fortunately, I got out of an inevitably bad relationship this month but I could have cut my losses much sooner than later. Lesson learned!!!
2. When it's over, it's over... Don't hang around, hope things change, etc. Cut 'em loose and go with what's next.
3. Go with the flow.... When we see someone we really like, sometimes we can jump the gun and want it all now. The best relationships I've had have been the kind where I let things happen at a more natural pace. When I rushed it, my expectations took over and then boom! heartbreak.
Nice thread BTW...