"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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CaptFinnBad

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I always got on with my ex's Dad. We became good friends and fished together a lot over the years. We have become real friends.

This weekend I invited him to come out with me. We had a great day together, towards the end he told me he has late stage cancer.

He's taking it well and wants to enjoy life. Is eager to set up another fishing trip, possibly next weekend.

This got my hamster spinning regarding my ex a little. As he mentioned to me he only told her yesterday.

I clicked on her messaging profile when I got home, I have no intention of texting her.

But I see she's changed her profile picture to one of her and my dog!!! It's really odd. I haven't spoken to her in months and months

What's your thoughts why she would do this.
 
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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justaroundthecorner

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I would not think about it too much - if you really want to, give positive reaction to the photo only if she is still on your friends list and the photo change was marked as public.

Concentrate on being good friend to the guy, it seems he won't be around for too long.
 

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I second what @justaroundthecorner said. Don't give too much energy into it.. but if it has your "hamster spinning", I would simply message her and share the sentiments .. and if there IS anything there, you'll know.
 

CaptFinnBad

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Yeah. I'm pretty much ignoring it. It just got in my head a lil bit.
 

Beyond It

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It’s a manipulation of your emotions. Why are you looking at her profile? She has you pegged you know. If you did ever comment or somehow mentioned to someone who later told her, all it would do is contribute to her delusion of her own glorious essence. Her supreme power over men.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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CaptFinnBad

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It’s a manipulation of your emotions. Why are you looking at her profile? She has you pegged you know. If you did ever comment or somehow mentioned to someone who later told her, all it would do is contribute to her delusion of her own glorious essence. Her supreme power over men.
Her Dad told me he had cancer when we were fishing. I was contemplating messaging her to see how she was holding up, dealing with the news.

Then I seen the profile picture had changed on WhatsApp messenger and thought nope, as alarm bells started ringing when I seen it.
 

Desdinova

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But I see she's changed her profile picture to one of her and my dog!!! It's really odd. I haven't spoken to her in months and months

What's your thoughts why she would do this.
Women can get nostalgic. Women can also do some really odd things. I had one ex name her kid after me. I had another one name her kid after my son's name. Take it as a compliment and go fvck a different woman.
 

Chow Mein

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Question for you to think about.

You still wanna bang your ex?
 

The Duke

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I always got on with my ex's Dad. We became good friends and fished together a lot over the years. We have become real friends.

This weekend I invited him to come out with me. We had a great day together, towards the end he told me he has late stage cancer.

He's taking it well and wants to enjoy life. Is eager to set up another fishing trip, possibly next weekend.

This got my hamster spinning regarding my ex a little. As he mentioned to me he only told her yesterday.

I clicked on her messaging profile when I got home, I have no intention of texting her.

But I see she's changed her profile picture to one of her and my dog!!! It's really odd. I haven't spoken to her in months and months

What's your thoughts why she would do this.
Sometimes folks get nostalgic and reminisce. My guess is she values the relationship you have with her dad, and there is a part of her that wishes she had you back. Her dad's cancer has brought this to the forefront. People reflect more in times like this and seek comfort. ITs similar to when someone exeriences a tough time like divorce and reaches out to their ex.

Was she close to your dog?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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