"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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What would you want to receive as a gift for your birthday?

FortunateSon

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I can only speak for myself but I'd like a 12oz Rib-eye steak and a BJ for my Birthday.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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pinkfl

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devilkingx2 said:
lets see here, 50% divorce rate, 1% chance you'll end up sexually compatible, 99% chance you'll come out of the divorce with a whole lot of his money
But hey, you want to bring statistics into this? Ok.

The career I am going into in particular has a ridiculously low divorce rate. So that means there's a 96% chance my marriage will be JUST FINE. But thanks for bringing in some outdated information based on nothing.

And HIS career (engineer) is in one of the lowest rates of divorce category as well.

http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2010/09/16/AR2010091607509.html
 

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pinkfl said:
He cheats? Then I will leave him. Plain and simple.
I never "forced" him to wait. He freely chose to get involved in a relationship with me. He knew from the very beginning, before we even started dating, that this was how I was. This wasn't a "surprise". If he wants that, that's his choice. No one is forcing him to stay.

You want to use the car analogy? Fine. I'd rather have a brand new car backed by a phenomenal warranty than an old klunker that's been around the lot a half a dozen times. Let's pretend that car is a manual, too. Some inexperienced test driver has probably ground the gears or rode on the clutch when THEY test drove and now the transmission is ever so slightly damaged. But you can't tell when you test drive it...you find out years later.
But you've never driven that brand new car? You don't know how it feels, how it turns, etc. You can't "guess" on it.
 

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pinkfl, your princess syndrome can be treated these days, you know that? Your guy is an utter idiot to put up with a "relationship" without sex.
A relationship without sex is one you have with family and friends.
So... is your guy your brother?
 

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SamTheHobit said:
Oh stfu. Enjoy your tainted ho while I have a pure virgin.
Sam, you can't catch crabs from a 3 dollars wh0re, stop daydreaming and start heavy petting your hard drive full of porn. I honestly feel sorry for you. The time you spent here didn't help you at all.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I have no problem with the OP's decision. I really can't understand so many guys getting on her about it. At the end of the day, each person has different opinions about sex, sex before and after marriage, spiritual beliefs, etc.

Here we have yet another thread started by a woman that has degenerated into petty arguments and name-calling. There's nothing wrong with discussing disagreements, but if we are men who are trying to better ourselves universally, why not stop, think, and add something useful (even if it is disagreement), instead of jumping into the fray with fists flailing?

Example:

What I DO question, is why the OP is here on SS, regularly participating in conversations with men on a men's website that is devoted to men learning how to deal with women. Does her boyfriend/fiancé, whatever he is, know about this?

If someone I was dating was hanging out on a site like this, I would regard that as a very serious red flag.
 

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Atom Smasher said:
What I DO question, is why the OP is here on SS, regularly participating in conversations with men on a men's website that is devoted to men learning how to deal with women. Does her boyfriend/fiancé, whatever he is, know about this?

If someone I was dating was hanging out on a site like this, I would regard that as a very serious red flag.
Yeah, Atom, I was thinking the same thing. At the least, she's looking for answers to something. Or...there could be something missing in her relationship (hmmm) and she's getting that thrill on here.

On one end you have Samthehobbit, 19 year old virgin, giving advice. It's okay though, he's not some troll who's pretending he's something he's not. He's admitted it. It's one of the reasons he's on here. If you take his advice it's up to you, you know where it's coming from.

On the other end you have Pink, a woman who has a boyfriend and is waiting until marriage to have sex with her significant other. (doesn't me she's a vigin though...right?) With all those little green dots under her name she seems to have quite a following, and must have given out some great advice. I as well, contrary to what may have been construed from a previous post, say so be it. Do what you want. But, what gets me, is that she's on here giving advice to guys. Again, she's not a troll though...so, just know where the advice is coming from.
 

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Atom, not sure if this has been discussed before, but how about suggesting to the guy who runs this site the option of users to designate a few things about themselves.

-woman or man
-virgin
-single, in a relationship, or married

Or is that too much?

All optional of course, like your location and age. Just an idea.
 
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