"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Now I got a cell phone number from a girl a few weeks back, and everytime I call I get the answer phone, so I leave a message. So she replies a week later with a text message saying her excuse and sorry. Fair enough the first time, but I get this the 2nd & 3rd time too this time her reasons were busy with friends or sick. So after this I text her (yeah lame I know) - Howcome whenever I call I just get the answer phone? Whats the deal? Her response to that was just the same excuse as before.
Obviously her interest in me isn't up there so I've already nexted her. Why girls can't return a call with a call I don't know.

This isn't the first girl I've met who acts this way.

What would some of you other DJs do in this situation? To get her interest and get a date.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I think you'd have better luck getting another number. If she doesn't offer a date after 3 calls, I don't think she has any interest.
 

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Follow these simple steps.

1) Walk out of your house.

2) Go into your car.

3) Drive to the mall or some stores.

4) See if anything catchs your eye.

5) Use a good line I got from a buddy of mine...(Grab a bra) Go up to the target.

Say: "Do you think this makes me look fat?"

She should laugh. Or else she is ABSOLUTELY too full of herself.

6) Ask her for her name.

7) Tell her you know another girl by that name and it sounds familar. She'll be like - "Really? I don't know you bla bla."

Then say "OH! You were that girl checking out my bodacious bod at school aren't you? (If you don't go to school improvise- I can't hold your hand you know!)

(Say this next line while you rub the back of your hair like your all that!) I know its irresistable, but come on now lady, I'm a human being too!"

This will blow into fluff talk or a huge laugh.

For sure I am about 100% sure she will ask what school you go too so fluff talk gets intiated.

Try this on about 15 girls for a start.

Good luck
 

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I think your problem lies in the fact that you haven't sufficiently raised her IL during your first meeting.

Its great to get a chicks phone number but many will give out fake numbers, cell numbers just to be "nice". They may give you their number with absolutely no intention of ever seeing you again. Think about it. If a chick was truly interested why wouldn't she give you her home phone number?

Try putting a bit more effort and time into raising her IL before you ask for a number.
 

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Originally posted by Slickster
I think your problem lies in the fact that you haven't sufficiently raised her IL during your first meeting.

Its great to get a chicks phone number but many will give out fake numbers, cell numbers just to be "nice". They may give you their number with absolutely no intention of ever seeing you again. Think about it. If a chick was truly interested why wouldn't she give you her home phone number?

Try putting a bit more effort and time into raising her IL before you ask for a number.
Yeah I figured that her interest is gone, at the the time her interest level was high she wanted to meet up for a date - she asked for my number too so I told her she would get mine when I called her. But like I said I only get the answer phone like her phone is always off. My guess is that some other guy has got her interest.


Redknight04, I like the bra idea :D
This girl was from one of my mall approaches.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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